As a few of you will know, I've had constant trouble with my next door neighbour for the whole 2 years we've both moved into our houses. I've had to call our housing association and the police numerous times due to her and whichever partner she's with at the time, fighting, throwing things against the walls and pretty much smashing her own house down in drunken rages.
My o.h has had to give evidence against one of her boyfriends in his trial (domestic abuse against her) but it's come to our attention, through our complaints, that she winds these men up to a point where they get violent with her.
Her dogs are constantly fighting between themselves and attacking any dogs that people bring with them to visit her to the point where I've often seen blood on her patio after an attack, a few weeks ago one of her dogs jumped into my garden (which I have to say frightened the life out of me as I have an almost 2 year old and think that, if her dogs can attack other dogs, what's stopping it going for my child)
Anyway... last night things kicked off again with huge bangs and smashes against the wall between out 2 living rooms, shouting etc. I told dp to call the police (as we're told to do this as soon as they start up) but I think something in me just snapped as NOTHING is being done by our H.A, they've told me they haven't visited her in regards to mine and the police's complaints. I went out into my garden and stood next to the fence looking into her window and she was kicking, punching, kicking and throwing furniture against our joining wall and the wall at 90degrees to it, also kicking and punching the door on the second wall. Then she marched off into her kitchen.
At that point her current boyfriend came out and we had a bit of a chat as to why she was in such a rage and it appeared she was doing the usual "wind them up til they hit me" routine. So told him she needed help and to apologise for her behaviour as dd was asleep in the room above our living rooms and I turned to walk back in.
As I got back to my back door, she waltzed out and started her usual victim act "you've been saying to the H.A that my dog eats babies" and I just saw red and ranted and ranted about all the grief she'd caused us for 2 years, how she's destroying her house and that there's people out there sleeping in shitty hostels with their kids when she's smashing up a beautiful 4 bed house that she's in with her bfs when she could have a flat instead, how shes constantly disturbing our sleep, that she;d get her children back if she actually provided them a safe home, how her dogs are violent and dangerous, how we don't feel safe for ourselves let alone our daughter, how we hate her ridiculous behaviour and that she needs to grow up of get out etc.
At that point dp put his head out the door to say he'd come off the phone to the police and I went back inside.
DP thinks I was unreasonable to have ranted (not shouted) at her and that I'll now be in trouble with the H.A. But surely I wasn't unreasonable to actually tell her how I feel as she isn't being told our side from the H.A and to make her aware that it's totally unacceptable. Surely if I was screamy and shouty and unreasonable the police would have come to speak to me as they would have heard everything on the phone. Sorry for the essay, really needed to get that off my chest!