To be annoyed about getting someone else's clutter

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I have a friend who means well but is always giving my dc clutter she is clearing out from her house as she can't bear to throw anything away. Eg she will wrap up second hand toys and books. If she comes for dinner will be "presents" for each child.!Just have my 3 year old Ds for his birthday second hand fake (small) lego and size 12 slippers (he is a size 7!) so they will fit him in 4 years and anyway they are horrible. I don't know why it annoys me so much, dh says just take directly to charity shop. Aibu or totally ungrateful? When I clear out stuff I would put on Facebook to ask if anyone wants and if no takers goes to charity shop or recycling.

She gave your son a birthday gift and your upset because its second hand and not a brand?

Yabu and she should probably get herself so e better friends

I don't care that the gift is second hand. I care that the gift is unsuitable (he is too small for small Lego and slippers 5 sizes too big) and she is constantly bring round stuff that I would be tidying out due to lack of space.

Or put another way - when I have a clear out for the charity shop should I wrap everything up and give to my friends kids even if not suitable for them without checking with my friends.

I have been given great 2nd hand stuff, but it's been great as it was age appropriate, or needed.

Start regifting crap back to her. E.g. Happy birthday! here are some clothes that will never fit you...

Just tell her! "Oh thanks for the thinking of the dc but unfortunately dc is too young for Lego and we don't have space to store clothes he'll grow into. " end of.

No need to offend her, just thank her politely and take it to the charity shop.

My mum has a cousin like this. Brings heaps of shit round "for the kids", none of which is appropriate nor particularly nice. One example was a china cow, that only had three legs... One had broken off. Even worse is, its not even her shit, it belongs to her friends. So they offload it to mums cousin (who doesn't have kids) and she offloads it to my mum! So annoying, just take it to the bloody charity shop!

Get rid of it. "Gifting" used items is pretty rude.