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AIBU?

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To think the nurse could have given me a smear test?

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Confused27 · 07/04/2014 21:18

Sorry if this is TMI for anyone - I hope I have given enough info in the thread title to allow people to avoid if necessary!

I am 27 and still a virgin. Combination of some fairly strict religious beliefs in my early 20's and my failure to find anyone I like enough to have sex with in my later 20's. I don't have a problem with it.

Because I have never had sex I have never had a smear test.

I went to the doctor's a little while ago and they were very very concerned about my lack of smear test. They said that whilst the risk was much lower for me it was not non-existent and I was playing "a dangerous game with my health" by not getting one.

So I went to the nurse last Friday to get one done. I was braced for it to be pretty uncomfortable but was prepared to put up with it.

Nurse promptly told me there was absolutely no way they could give me a smear test as there was "no chance of getting it in with you being a virgin". She also questioned whether I wanted the "first thing up there" to be a metal stick rather than a penis.

Personally, I don't care. I'm more bothered about my health. I pointed out what the doctor had said and she replied "well, that's what happens with virgins".

I've been left pretty confused and actually quite annoyed about the way I have been treated. AIBU?

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BEEwitched · 08/04/2014 22:58

Where I'm from, yearly smears are recommended and routine from the age of 20, whether you are a virgin or not - I had them done, even though I had no sexual contact until I was in my late 20ies.

HPV is responsible for a lot of cases of cervical cancer, but from what I've read it's not the only cause of cervical cancer.

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