To think a 3 year old shouldn't know this song?

[fifi669]

I'd never heard of it (maybe I'm too old). DP is mortified that during his visit with his DD she was singing it:

www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/lmfao/shots.html

No sorry thats ridiculous
no sane adult thinka a 3yo is grown up enough to drink
she's either an alcoholic or neglectdul or both
or theres something else going on

She doesn't have alcohol issues herself. She's a bit on the unstable side IMO. It seems to be standard behaviour in her family though.

Flippin' hell.
I'm also really worried that you said "She said DD helped herself but it was ok as she wasn't drunk or anything."

That's neglect, and really harmful. And a 3 year old is not grown up, even in comparison to another child who may be more 'childish'. She's 3. 3!!

I agree! So does DP, but what could we do? How could we prove anything?

Sorry Fifi. My first post sounded very flippant, but I thought she was your child. I have no other advice as X sounds awful. Just support her when you have her, as there doesn't seem a lot you can do. So sorry.

Actually there must be something that you MUST do if you believe that she is drinking alcohol at 3! Does your dp know her HV/Dr? I know this will open a horrible can of worms/chain of events but....What a horrible situation to be in. Maybe someone with more experience will answer this for you. Hope so.

I'd be getting custody.

Oh come on op. Can't say the word as get deleted but get under your bridge now.

Opening a can of worms is better than the child opening a can of fosters
agree with the last couple of posters

Really OP? You start a thread because the DD is singing words to an explicit song, which as other posters have said, happens, even in the best of families, but then casually drop in that she's three years old and drinking alcohol?

I don't think she drinks normally, but yes she had alcohol at Christmas.

DP would love custody, how would be prove it though? She'd deny it and then what?

I was trying to give background to the situation, it's not just an isolated singing this song, it's all the language she knows and uses, the boundaries her mum doesn't set with regards to tv viewing and drinking. I was surprised that people weren't shocked so thought showing it was a pattern of behaviour might be helpful.

Sorry I must be thick or something.

A 3 year old is drinking alcohol? And that wasnt the actual point of your OP, that was just casually thrown in there? You were more worried about song lyrics

Why the actual fuck have you not called SS?

And you said she used to give alcohol to a younger brother?
younger than 3?

I'm really confused. There's no way on this fucking earth I could know this was going on and not DO anything.

"I don't think she drinks normally"

Well no. because she is 3

I still remember the parent's shock when Sex On The Beach came on at the school disco and we were all singing and dancing...

In fact we were getting down and dirty - kid style.

I'm going to assume there was a typo in the title and the child is really 13. It's the only way my brain can process this thread.

That's what I thought taz

This OP is not a troll, by the way. I agree it must be 13.

Ex and her mum used to give alcohol to her younger brother when DP was with her. He was around 6? At the time. It's ex's brother.

We both know the alcohol is seriously messed up, but as I said she'd deny it and then what? I'd already spoke about the ex in a thread before with her various ways. I posted in relationships and was basically told to keep my nose out as I'm just the step mother figure.

OP can you just clarify of the dd is 3 or 13?

However grown up a 3 year old is they don't drink alcohol. They just don't.

No she is 3 :(

We don't really know what to do. She loves her mum. Her mum just doesn't get what's acceptable for a child her age. Their flat isn't a state or anything, there's no neglect or abuse in a physical way, no violence, she's fed and presentable. What could SS actually see? She's threatened to move up country with the DD if DP doesn't stick to all the rules she's given him. Pretty sure a fruitless call to SS would mean exactly that.

But....oh come on now. You know a 3 year old is drinking alcohol but it's not worth reporting it because she will deny it

We know she drank at Christmas. No other time that we aware of. As I said ex's family let her brother drink and that's why DP asked. I guess that must have been occasions such as Christmas etc.

If we could prove it, we'd be on it. We can't.

DD isn't allowed to meet anyone other than DP and only for 2 hours a week according to the rules ex has put in place. She wouldn't know her grandparents etc she's said now we're expecting a child that DP has his own child and so can leave 'hers' alone'

In one way ex has put DD at the centre of her universe, spoils her, controls everything in her life completely. On the other hand she says they're best friends and treats her far older than she is.