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To not answer "withheld" phone calls

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Mistressmiggins · 07/04/2014 19:38

Why should I answer the phone? I don't know who they are. Or do you all answer out of curiosity?

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wheresthelight · 07/04/2014 19:38

Nope n

wheresthelight · 07/04/2014 19:39

Sorry phone gone nuts

Nope never answer. If it's vital they will leave a message

starlight1234 · 07/04/2014 19:39

Often no and usually regret it if I do

Brakeover · 07/04/2014 19:39

Yes because may be school hospital GP etc

ipswichwitch · 07/04/2014 19:40

No I don't either. If it's important they can leave a message, but they're almost always call centres

GemmaTeller · 07/04/2014 19:40

we got rid of our landline because of nuisance cold callers and I definately don't answer my mobile if its a withheld or unknown number

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 07/04/2014 19:40

Unfortunately I have to, as our business is run from home. I'd rather not, as they are often cold-callers.

If we didn't have the business, then I would block them

wightjellybaby · 07/04/2014 19:40

I only ancwer if I know who it is everyone else can leavean ancwer message and ill call back

Im fed of people telling me about ppi or new windows if I want windows ill go and find them myself

Mistressmiggins · 07/04/2014 19:40

My ex refuses to give me his home number. Usually phones on his mobile but sometimes on his landline. I figure it's ok for people to want privacy on their number but I don't have to answer one withheld

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PickleMobile · 07/04/2014 19:40

I don't on my mobile or home phone, if it's important they'll leave a message.

YouStayClassySanDiego · 07/04/2014 19:40

I never answer the phone unless I know who's calling, especially withheld numbers.

invicta · 07/04/2014 19:42

I never answer them either. If it's important, they can leave a message, and I'll ring back straight away.

ipswichwitch · 07/04/2014 19:45

Brakeover I inow not all hospitals are the same but ours does show a number if someone calls from there. Same for Gp and DS's nursery. Probably for this very reason

AdoraBell · 07/04/2014 19:45

Do you have DCs together with EX? If so and they are at his home I can't understand him refusing to give the number.

Sparklingbrook · 07/04/2014 19:46

I always answer 'withheld number'' calls during office hours. They are always from the GP/hospital or DS2's school.

They can also be someone ringing that has cable rather than BT.

I volunteer for a charity and when I call people i always withhold my number, as it's my private phone. But most people answer. Smile

EatDessertFirst · 07/04/2014 19:47

I never answer these calls. Like wise PP, the caller will leave a message if its important. I have the school, Nursery and prison where DP works saved as contacts so they show up.

I hate cold-callers with a burning passion.

Sparklingbrook · 07/04/2014 19:49

I have DS2's school as a contact (the number I ring them on), but it always comes up as 'withheld' when they ring me.

I have never answered and it's been a cold caller.

makeminea6x · 07/04/2014 19:49

Your GP can only leave a message if you have a personalised ansafone message though.

peggyundercrackers · 07/04/2014 19:59

I always answer the phone to with held numbers, you never know who it's going to be. I don't have an answer phone on my house phone and don't have a mobile. I don't get lots of calls from cold callers either but then I never give my number out to anyone apart from family/friends and never ever fill out surveys etc with my number. If anyone asks for it I just say it's x-directory and wont give it out.

If I call some and it goes onto answer phone I will put the phone down without leaving a message, I've never left a message on anyone's answer phone, I will try again though when it is convenient for me.

formerbabe · 07/04/2014 20:05

Yes I always answer..in case its a hospital/docs/school/nursery or someone who genuinely needs to speak to me...if I don't like who it is when I answer, I can always hang up!

AMillionNameChangesLater · 07/04/2014 20:08

Never answer withheld and i don't have vm on my phone either. The only messages I got were "it's me, your mil, just calling for a chat, please call me back" and it was annoying, especially as she would call back in 5 mine anyway before i got the message.

Greenkit · 07/04/2014 20:10

We ring nominated people from police custody and thats a witheld number, and we dont leave a message.

ICanSeeTheSun · 07/04/2014 20:14

Always do, if it's a cold caller it's not my minutes they are wasting.

stooshe · 07/04/2014 20:14

I don't answer these types of call. I wait five minutes to see if the call was so important to the caller as to leave a message on voicemail. Usually they don't which I usually think is indicative of why the number was withheld in the first place.

EverySoddingNameIsTaken · 07/04/2014 20:15

He police have rang me when I reported a serious incident before from a withheld number, my GP does, out of hours do, the school and today I answered to withheld which happened to be an appointment I had missed. I don't see why you wouldn't ? Just hang up if it's someone you don't wish to talk to?