To say no

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AIBU to say no to having my DN over night. I am looking after 5 kids on my own as DP away visiting IL's all week. I am also juggling visiting my mum in hospital and don't see why I should look after my DN the one night I will have with my kids and not visiting DM.

Nope

Not unreasonable at all, assuming it is not an emergency.

Nope not unreasonable.

I think the person asking, if they are aware of your situation, are being very unreasonable.

Unless it's an emergency or a wedding or similar event for which her parents have incurred expense/real embarrassment not being able to attend YANBU.

Although, unless tiny, one more DC once you get beyond 3 or 4 doesn't make much difference.

Must be a back story here.

His parents want to have a drink and will keep his siblings at home but not him as he is only 1.5. They know the situation as its my DB and SIL.

In that case, tell them to get stuffed (not in those words)

So they can have a drink? Tell them to fuck off.

Well then OP tell them no, you are sorry you cannot help at this time but you are snowed under and in truth could do with a little support yourself you know what with 5 kids, DP not at home and you visiting our mother in hospital!!

The cheek of some folk never ceases to amaze me. I think OP that you are at this time wonder women in my eyes

Would they have your kids on one night so you can have drink?

Anti they would take 1 or 2 of my kids over night but not all at once as they have 4 of their own. Its to much having them all at once even though I have had their 4 all at once

then I'd say - "NO, I am sorry but I can't cope with change of routine now my mum is unwell"