Advice for a friend?

[phoebeflangey]

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Friend has been seeing a chap she met on a website (social one rather than dating) really likes him and thought he felt the same. Trouble is, he's told her he can't see her at the next date that was arranged due to his mum disliking the fact that he met her online (like his previous 2 gf's) He says she will kick him out if he carries on seeing her, they are 24 and 25) he has since turned his phone off and she needs to know what to do

Genuine post, please be nice - I don't think he's lying for what it's worth, but do think he may be a mummies boy! Really don't understand why someone wouldn't just stop contact or tell her if he didn't want to keep seeing her?

She should thank her lucky stars she has found out now that his mother runs his life, if that is actually the truth.

he doesn't fancy her and is using the Mummies boy excuse to let her down gently.

'he says she will kick him out if he carries on seeing her'

Really,he's not going to choose your friend over having a roof over his head.

If he's telling the truth.

How long had they been seeing each other?

Why did he not lie to his mum about how they met, if this is true and he is aware of her disapproval of him meeting woman this way?

Mamma that's what I said! They've had four dates, but have been chatting to each other for weeks.

He's text her today saying it's going to be really difficult but he does like her and wants to see her again.

I think she needs to cut her losses :(

Maybe his mum is very controlling, maybe she has just had enough of crappy girlfriends coming into her home and is assuming your friend will be another.

Either way it's going to be a rubbish relationship if he's going to stay living with his mum and only see her surreptitiously.

Is there any particular reason why he can't move out?

Oh dear. I think it would have been better for her in the long run if he had not sent that text!