To really hate all the contradicting advice on how to get my baby to sleep!

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I'm beyond tired as my 4 month old has regressed and wakes every 3-4 hrs, and wakes early for day too when she used to go 7-7 with a dream feed at 11.
Everything I read days routine for bed and put them down drowsy but awake and then leave room or sit quiet til they fall asleep.
Firstly, I'm told that guidelines suggest not to leave her to sleep on her own til 6 months. So she sleeps first part of night in travel cot in living room. Usually she has bottle and drifts off or I rock her and put her in cot after a while and then watch tv quietly but then she wakes!!! I don't think she can self settle maybe. Or is it teething, or is it just a phase. Too much information has driven me up the wall!
Rant done :)

Until MN i had never heard of this '4 month sleep regression'. All my dc were sleeping by 4 months. But I did & will do cc. I will leave the baby to cry.

It's not a common view these days but I find the idea of a year old child not sleeping ridiculous & I'm much to selfish to tolerate it!

I can only suggest trial and error. After the newborn part dd slept great. By 3 months she would wake only once in the night and then at 6 am before going back to sleep until 8. I was very smug.

Then at 3.5 months it all went wrong. Some nights she sleeps ok, some nights I'm up every 1.5 hours. The more feeds she has in a day the better she sleeps at night so it's getting a bit better now she is being weaned, but then sometimes it's wind, sometimes her dummy falls out.

Not much help I'm afraid, but as everyone says all babies are different so try out what you think is good advice and ignore the rest.

Good luck with that giveme.

You would leave a four month old baby to cry? How long do you suggest?

I agree that you do sound selfish. If you're children slept well at four months then that's great news but for others, even doing controlled crying doesn't guarantee they'll sleep through. What would you suggest they try?

Your* not you're. Ffs

From experience and mothers I've spoken to babies wake at least a couple of times during the night.

The things that help me are:

Going to bed at 10pm,

Co sleeping,

Breastfeeding for the night feeds - I just latched her on and was asleep again within a couple of minutes,

At 8 months were now formula feeding so I make her 2 flasks with feeds in which I keep by the bed. They are made at slightly different temperatures so they will each be perfect when needed at 1 and 4am.

Good luck!

I do empathise, sleep deprivation is hellish. Our DS 2.7 sleeps alone for 3-4 hours. I cannot do CC, instead, we co-sleep. Not ideal, but he sleeps beside me for a further 5-6 hours. I know he will sleep the night, eventually, DS1 and DS2 are 13, and I struggle to get them out of their beds . Hopefully, it won't take that long. I don't know what works, but I'd love to know!

Pea -perseverance, ear plugs & a total last resort medisaid!

I'm not joking...

Sorry posted too soon -feeding baby.

Cc? as long as necessary. I know its not popular but honedt too God, when i read stuff about a 1 or 2 year old not sleeping, i struggle to understand how the parent is functioning!

My method has worked on 5 dc. Dc4 took to about 4 months to sleep through but he was generally a very unsettled or high maintenance baby.

It's not for everyone but not sleeping propley isn't something I could tolerate for months on end.

Interesting. I think there's a world of difference between a 1-2 year old still not sleeping all night long and a newborn. I assume from your post that you started cc at newborn stage as you said they were all sleeping through by four months and it took one child until four months to sleep through?

I can't imagine putting earplugs in and leaving a newborn to cry. I suppose it depends on your interpretation of cc and sleeping through. 5-6 hrs is classed as sleeping through.

Your baby sounds like an excellent sleeper for her age. I could only dream of 3-4 hours at that age. You're obviously doing things right so just keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about anyone else,.

I'm one of those ridiculous parents with a 19 month old who wakes every two hours at least and likes to have a three hour play in the small hours of the night. Would love to know how you do controlled crying when the child is not crying. I can hear a child through any earplugs and even if i could muffled the sound for me it would still wake everyone else in the house. How to controlled cry the children who wake for the toilet, or because of the baby? Earplugs for me, let the other kids wet themselves or have a bad dream? Not to mention they will come and find you and tell you the baby is shouting again. Maybe everyone should be drugged to sleep.

I think each family and situation is different. It's offensive and almost sneering to say that you find it ridiculous how many 1-2 year olds don't sleep. I have stopped feeding my over 9mth old through the night and sometimes we get a night of no waking up and sometimes even with some cc methods we have a painful night. Babies and children are not robots. Earplugs don't stop teething or reflux etc and cc won't work in all cases.

Op there is a number of things you can try but only you know what your baby is like. It doesn't sound unusual to be waking up every 4hrs at 4mths.

yabu only because I've been up every two hours since three months... Five months later and I'd kill for three to four hour gaps.