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Original poster

To just want to poo in peace?

34 replies

PolytheneGirl · 05/04/2014 18:28

I never get to go to the loo in peace. DS is always barging in and talking/moaning or climbing on me. It's not just going to the loo either, I can't remember the last time I had a peaceful, uninterrupted soak in the bath without having to get out to deal with something or a certain little man crying until I let him "get in", or DH entering the bathroom, sitting on the loo and interrogating me about some arbitrary thing!

DH doesn't seem to see what I am complaining about or the importance of just having a few minutes a day of head-space to think! Please tell me it's not just me!

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Waterfalls1 · 05/04/2014 18:30

You are not alone, my DC want to poo without me around but always barge when I want one Grin

kentishgirl · 05/04/2014 18:31

why dont you lock the door?

But I know what you mean. My favourite toddlers book was 'Five Minutes Peace'

adoptmama · 05/04/2014 18:32

YANBU
but you are probably unrealistic if your DS is young ...

Fit the door with a lock. It's worked wonders in my house. Two days of howling and banging at the door has now turned to acceptance

Guitargirl · 05/04/2014 18:34

Lock the door, train your toddler and certainly your husband that your time in the bathroom is for you and you alone.

funkybuddah · 05/04/2014 18:35

Make it clear that they are not to bother you. They won't stop if you don't tell them firmly. I did this then told them off if they persisted. That goes for dp too who seems to sense when my cheeks hit the seat lol

CloverHeart · 05/04/2014 18:35

I could have written this! YANBU. They could leave me be for a whuole day while in the house but as SOON as i need a poo or get in the bath they have to be up my arse Hmm

DontCareAboutYourShoes · 05/04/2014 18:36

Train yourself to poo in the dead of night.

Or teach your toddler that poo time is you time.

Topseyt · 05/04/2014 18:36

I remember those days of not even being able to go to the loo in peace.

Lock the door. Tell your husband that this is your "me" time and he is to look after your son until you come out, without any further interruptions.

Why on earth does your husband think that he can come in and sit there while you are in the bath?? If you want your privacy tell him, and expect him to respect that.

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PolytheneGirl · 05/04/2014 18:39

It does sound like the logical thing to do "lock the door" but we don't have a lock. We have a sort of No Locked Doors policy in our house. That's how things were in my house growing up and I like it in general. I'm sure if the door was locked DS would just scream and bang on it until I gave in anyway.

I used to be able to just leave DS downstairs and lock the stair gate but now he knows how to open it!

Today I am reconsidering the whole No Locked Doors thing!

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 05/04/2014 18:41

This is the one and only cause of resentment in my marriage. DH takes a lovely long relaxing crap every morning. I have a 5 second poo with a toddler trying to pull my clothes off or or all the loo roll into the bath. I don't even know why we fell into this default position- I'm not a sahm so he does plenty of the childcare stuff.
YANBU

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PolytheneGirl · 05/04/2014 18:42

It's not really a privacy issue. We are a very open family. For me it is just really about having a few minutes to myself. A whole bath would be a luxury!

Glad to hear I'm not the only one!

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greenfolder · 05/04/2014 18:46

get a door wedge- 99p from tesco- problem sorted.

Madeyemoodysmum · 05/04/2014 19:16

Are you in a park?

Sorry read other thread

cardibach · 05/04/2014 19:59

I read this loads on MN and am Confused
I never had interrupted poos and I was a single parent from when DD was about 18 months. There is actually no need for children (and definitely not adults) to interrupt toilet or bath time. I just don't get it.

Odaat · 05/04/2014 20:38

Lol Madey !

sarahquilt · 05/04/2014 21:25

No lock on the bathroom door is nuts. I'd definitely have one and be adamant that no one
is coming in til you're done.

whois · 05/04/2014 21:45

No lock on the bathroom door? You're just making a rod for your own back.

Buy a lock. Tell his an no one is to disturb you. DC learns after a few times that crying outside the door doesn't result in it opening. Honestly. Be a martyr, get taken advantage of.

I don't remember ever being in the bathroom while my parents had a poo. Hasn't harmed our close relationship.

Janethegirl · 05/04/2014 21:47

I always found if I closed the door, the dcs would follow me but if I left it open I was left in peace.

DoJo · 05/04/2014 21:51

No lock at all? Don't you ever have guests?

ItsNotATest · 05/04/2014 21:51

I refuse to believe that anyone is scarred for life by not witnessing their parents poo.

Just buy a lock and stop moaning about something so easily fixable Confused

Fleta · 05/04/2014 21:52

Just don't tolerate it.

I think a lock for a bathroom door is a must. It can be placed high enough for children to be unable to access, but still allows privacy.

But then DD following me to the loo was simply not something I would ever allowed

CoffeeTea103 · 05/04/2014 21:54

It's not rocket science, Buy a lock and move on. Confused

Janethegirl · 05/04/2014 21:58

I don't believe in locks after one of the dc managed to lick themselves in. All locks were then removed, and I don't think they have ever been replaced. Not necessary in my view as door closed equals occupied.

FutTheShuckUp · 05/04/2014 22:13

Proper howling at 'poo time is you time'

AmIthatWintry · 05/04/2014 22:15

I know this is OT, but I can no longer poo in peace thanks to a thread on here two days ago.

It was about rats, and I guarantee if you read it, you won't want to be lingering in the bathroom

am still traumatised

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