to think it's rude to shout from room to room in the house?

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I was brought up to think it's rude to shout between rooms in the house - if you want to talk to someone then you should go to the room they're in and speak in a normal voice.

Only now I live in a very vertical house, with 3 small children and lack the will time and energy to keep trotting up/down to wherever they are. I am forever shouting upstairs or downstairs to call them down/up, or ask them a quick question etc. Each time, I feel a sense of wrongness about it!

Sometimes I tell one DC 'can you go and call the others for lunch/tea/whatever'. Invariably, they stay standing right next to me and just bellow at deafening volume 'DC2/3 COME UP FOR TEA NOW!!!!!'

It always makes me feel I am clearly not instilling good etiquette in this particular area. Or am I just bonkers, and it's normal to shout across the house for someone else's attention?

It's rude. My DH does it, and it drives me mad. As it is a big house and I don't relish the prospect of a long walk every time I summon him I have taken up ringing him on his mobile to tell him that supper is ready, rather than shout up the stairs (or ask the children to tell him, which invariably involves them bellowing).

DH and DD shout for me in chorus. They go "1,2,3 MUUUUUUUUUM" Makes me furious. The wrath of my replying shout generally hurts my throat.

I am a room-to-room shouter and DH is not. He hates it. I'm not about to stop.

this is what texting was invented for

I FaceTime my son how bad is that? To be fair he is plugged into his Xbox so wouldn't hear me no matter how loud I shout!

SirChenjin Yep, and BM Bargains
I tried the text thing but her bloody phone was always on silent. The bell is brill, can't comment on the ones in their now but the one she has plays 'under the sea' from The Little Mermaid amongst other tunes much to her amusement.

I shout to call them - wouldn't have a conversation from floor to floor, but I'm damned if I'm running up 2 flights of stairs to get them when I'm trying to serve up a meal.

ds texts me from his bedroom if he wants to tell/ask me anything

It is rude.

I do it all the time.

It drives DH batty.

Meh. I shout. I'm too lazy to get up every time I want to talk to someone

Home Bargains, I am on my way

It is rude but impossible not to do it.

We have 5 dc in a 3 floor 6 bedroom house. I got so fed up of screeching up the stairs when they had all wandered off. So we installed a large replica shops bell at the bottom of the stairs. One dong and they all come running, I love it.

Ships bell

We all shout to one another from room to room. Hadn't really thought that it's rude in anyway. Don't really care either.

There was a family on a design show once, think was on channel 4 with this problem and they installed an intercom to the bedrooms in the hall. Maybe that could work?

Rude! Hate it and won't have it. The only acceptable time would be to alert someone of danger "FIRE!!!" "Stay in the kitchen there us a gunman out the front" (this actually happened" "help I am trapped under a wardrobe/got my cock stuck in my zip" (neither of these has happened ...yet)

One of the golden rules in our house.
"We cannot hear you if you speak from another room".

I come from Lancashire where "3 Street screechs" are not uncommon, if you could be heard over the moors, imagine what its like inside.

You didnt dare ignore it, mind you I think the fishwife gene has been handed down, and im probably as guilty myself.
I think I would like a genteel house where everyone spoke at a normal level, and they probably wait their turn and dont interupt either sigh

It is rude, I do seem to do it all the time though

The dses try it from upstairs when I'm at the back of the downstairs but I'm death as a doorpost so make them come down to talk to me

I come from shouty stock and I'm keeping up the family tradition......

I hate it. DH & DS do it a lot. I do sometimes communicate with DH vertically through the utility room ceiling however when he's on the loo in the ensuite - really easy to hear moderately loud speech.

I'm so glad I'm not the only who dislikes shouting.

The children are banned from doing it and the adults try not to do it too (and mostly succeed).

We have a nice little dinner bell to summon them for food. And I wouldn't say we were generally "posh". I just hate participating in or hearing other people's shouted conversations.

Shouting between rooms is not rude, but summoning people with a bell definitely is.

A bit Pavlovian perhaps, but not rude!

It might not be what people enjoy, but why on earth would it be rude?

My mum has MS so massively limited mobility and my dad is going deafer by the day. I was brought up to shout and being in a larger house it's even more necessary!

No sense in going all the way to find someone when all you want to do is tell them to come to where you are, or ask a simple question.

Elmereelephant, you have just reminded me of how my mother used to stand on the back door step and YELL for us to go in for tea. I absolutely hated it. DH shouts that tea is ready and I don't always hear him through closed doors. Cue me buying an old fashioned brass motor horn from Past Times before they closed down. Brings everyone running now. Love it.

I grew up in a very shouty household and I loved it! I hope my household will be the same. I like a house full of life and noise. I don't think it's rude (unless you're shouting rude things at each other!)