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To think I can make my own wedding dress?

79 replies

nastymrsvicar · 04/04/2014 12:05

...when I've never even used a sewing machine before?

The facts:

  • wedding is in over a year's time so I've got time to learn
  • I refuse to pay something like £1000 for a dress I will wear for max 4 hours but have not been able to find anything suitable in the shops (see below).
  • I don't want a huge Kate Middleton-esque creation, as it is not a big grand wedding. I want it to be a day dress with a little something extra in ivory silk.

I've just bought a sewing machine on a whim, so that's one step taken. I now need to practice using it and to find a pattern for the dress...

So am I insane? Has anyone else done this? Will I just end up collapsing in a small heap and reaching for my credit card?

Any tips would be much appreciated!

OP posts:
PerhapsNot · 04/04/2014 12:49

I think its possible. I managed a sleeved silk bridesmaids dress that looked perfect from the outside even though I haven't much of a clue about sewing. I just did it slowly and followed a pattern. The inside seams were a bit crap but everything looked straight and tidy on the outside. I even managed an Invisable zip. I just did everything really slowly and carefully. Honestly, if I can do it anyone can.

A dress makers mannequin would make it much, much easier. (I think)

DebbieOfMaddox · 04/04/2014 12:51

If you want to learn to make clothes for yourself as a hobby, leading up to making your own wedding dress, then I don't think it's a bad idea. If you were doing it just to save money on a wedding dress then I think it would be misguided because it would probably cost you more than buying a dress / getting one made.

DeWe · 04/04/2014 12:56

I made my own wedding dress with remnants from a market stall. Cost me less than 50 to make it, plus 4 bridemaids, 1 pageboy (though to be fair most were pretty small!)

Must have looked okay because I got several commisions to make friend's dresses after that. Grin

If you haven't sewn before though, I'd make up the dress you want first in very cheap fabric, and buy some cheap silk off ebay to also practice using silk.

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 04/04/2014 12:59

Raw silk is nice to sew though - I made two lovely dresses (that no longer fit me) in the wardrobe - one red and one khaki green, so I think I may cut them up and make a silk Christmas quilt!

Definitely make up a blank (a copy of the dress in a cheap cotton) to rehearse the process.

If you have a DD, or nieces, can you make a couple of little girl's dresses to practice techniques, and working with similar materials?

Also, as you have a deadline, aim to get the dress done a couple of months before the wedding - just in case you hit any delays, you don't want an accusing pile of fabric glaring at you from the corner of the kitchen...(has happened to me with school play costumes - 8 mermaids tails that I ate, drank and slept till 5am the day of dress rehearsal)

I made DD's communion dress (I think the fabric was a "suede satin" - a lovely matt satin), and she loved it as she got final say on all the details. Fair play to her she was like Coco Chanel "no Mum, that's too much, take it off" on half the decorations I liked. I made it up first in a gorgeous petrol blue satin for practice - that was actually a more difficult fabric than the communion dress.

My DM made her own wedding dress, on an ancient Singer that had been converted from hand cranked to electric (1968). She then cut it up and made a christening robe and cape, in which I, my sis and my brother were christened - and DD was also christened in it, as was my nephew. It's becoming a family heirloom which is lovely.

florascotia · 04/04/2014 13:00

If you find you enjoy your dressmaking class, and plan to make more dresses in future, consider buying a dressmaker's dummy and adjusting it to your exact measurements. It will make fitting dresses so much easier.

Search the internet for sales/remnants/offers at specialist fine-fabric shops. To avoid cling and make most fabrics hang well, you'll probably need to make a lining, as well. White or cream fabrics usually need lining, otherwise they can be transparent.

If you are wanting a vintage style, there are also online sellers specialising in real or reproduction vintage dressmaking patterns.

Set aside a space to leave sewing things/ironing board standing ready for action (pressing as you go is usually gives best results, although that naturally depends on the fabric). It can be a real bore to have to get out/pack away all your sewing things every time you have a spare hour or so to do a bit of sewing. And doing dressmaking well usually takes time.

Strongly agree with advice by earlier posters to try making some other small items first, and, when it comes to the dress itself, do a dry run with cheap fabric - even old sheets, which you can purchase v cheaply at charity shops, will do for that.

Especially if using silk or velvet, avoid a design needing buttonholes. They are really hard to do well without lots of practice. You may find that you have a gift for them, however. Good luck! When it works, it's magical to turn a piece of flat fabric into something flattering and three-dimensional.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/04/2014 13:02

You really don't have to spend anything like 1000 on a dress. I had one made for 150 this was 14 years ago though.

Sewing isn't difficult but fitting a dress to someone's shape is ime.

Buy cheap calico and do a practice dress first before cutting into expensive material.

Good luckSmile

MinesAPintOfTea · 04/04/2014 13:08

My mum made mine and I love it. I do a bit of dressmaking (too tall for normal clothes) and if I USSR a pattern marked easy it generally goes well. Make a mockup in some cheap fabric/an old duvet cover and then go for it.

Pattern envelopes tell you how much fabric to buy and if you're in a fabric shop they'll help you pick/get exact colour matches on thread/zips etc.

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 04/04/2014 13:13

Oh, and Google the ten commandments of sewing.

Main one

"Measure twice, cut once"...

Nocomet · 04/04/2014 13:20

I made a boned silk ball dress with very little practice.
Zip was a bit wonky (mum's old machine doesn't like thicker bits), but otherwise fine.

Had it been a wedding dress it would have gained a bow at the waist and the dodgy bit would have been covered.

momb · 04/04/2014 13:27

I popped in to say 'YANBU Of course you can make a wedding dress! I'm making mine!'
But actually, having read your post, I think you are going to cost yourself a fortune in terms of money, time and stress in attempting this with no experience.
YABU. If you want a simple day dress then google/go highstreet. If you want something original, design it and get a dressmaker to help you. It's not just that the fabrics are expensive, it's that they are so easy to damage during the making up so you may well come out with something which looks barely Ok and just a little bit off because the fabric is so unforgiving.
Have a look in Monsoon or Phase 8.

mistlethrush · 04/04/2014 13:33

My mum and I made mine over a weekend. Much cheaper than any of the ones I saw in the shops and I got the style I wanted. We did a trial bodice and changed the neckline before we cut the 'real' one out because the pattern was too low cut for comfort.

mrsbucketxx · 04/04/2014 13:36

My mom made mine but she has 40 plus years experience.

The lace o mine wax v expensive and pushed the cost up bought veil which is extra.

Not as cheap as you think

Sometimesbrunette · 04/04/2014 13:44

Go for it!! Do a mock up in cheap fabric first though x

persimmon · 04/04/2014 13:48

You could get a dressmaker to do it; my mum's used one for years and it's really reasonable.

Sunnymeg · 04/04/2014 13:55

Go into a bridal shop and try on lots of different styles of dresses, before you select your pattern. My cousin made her wedding dress, but when it was finished the style didn't really suit her. She is very petite and seemed swamped in acres of fabric (this was the 1980's), she hadn't tried anything on like it and didn't realise how the dress would look on her.

Another option is for you to make the basic dress and then pay for an experienced seamstress to complete it and do the embroidery or whatever you want.

ICanSeeTheSun · 04/04/2014 13:58

It's not a crazy idea and if you feel you can do it, do it

I would start by making dolls clothes as if you mess up, it doesn't matter the doll will not mind.

7to25 · 04/04/2014 13:59

I have made my own, my sister's and my daughter's wedding dresses.
Are you slow, patient, painstaking and methodical? If so, you can probably do it. You may need the help of a more experienced person.
I would suggest getting a dress form and fitting the dress to that.
I paid £500 for the fabric for my daughter's dress (last year)
Getting a second hand dress altered and modified would undoubtedly be cheaper.
Good luck!

specialsubject · 04/04/2014 14:00

why not?

but don't forget charity shops, ebay, second-hand shops. the charity shops round my way are stuffed with white frocks of all descriptions.

HerrenaHarridan · 04/04/2014 14:00

This thread is brilliant.

I made my own dress, 2 years ago.

I had sewn before but never clothes (apart from repairs)

I did go for quite a puffy number which made it quite forgiving.

I had several pouffy layers of tulle a layer of gold chiffon next to my skin.

2 layers of different gold gauzey stuff on top with a red on top of them. I gathered it up inti little fabric roses to give it a shape that suited

I wore it withs corset my (professional) friend helped me make and a bought bolero in the evening when it was colder.

The corset was quite a mission but the skirt only took about 3 hours

It was fun. I would recommend it Smile

Fluffalump · 04/04/2014 14:03

Why not if you are confident you could do a good job. But if you find you can't manage it my friend got the most beautiful wedding dress from t k max for a really reasonable amount.

Kiffykaffycoffee · 04/04/2014 14:03

I made mine 12 years ago. I was a pretty experienced dressmaker by then but I still struggled with getting the bodice to fit properly and sewing on the beads neatly. Also joining the skirt onto the bodice was quite tricky, lots of layers to sew through and it was hard to distribute the gathers evenly.
I'm not saying don't attempt it but have a practice first. If it's a simple style you might be ok.
Cost wise my dress took 10 metres of raw silk, which cost £120. The linings, interfacing, net petticoats, boning, beads and other trimmings brought the cost to about £200. A simple style would costa lot less and maybe use just 4-5 metres of fabric.
Give yourself plenty of time to practice. Do you have a good dressmaker friend who you can ask for help if necessary?

EverythingsDozy · 04/04/2014 14:08

I would definitely recommend tailors chalk! I tried to follow a pattern and cut without actually marking it out. Blush The pattern bunched and it ended up far too small!

lynniep · 04/04/2014 14:11

What hummingbird said. I would never attempt to make something in a silk fabric as a first attempt (any attempt actually - I've done one dress in silky stuff and never again - I sew all the time)
Its expensive, tricky, shows all errors BUT if you are determined, then yes, a dressmaking course will help.

Koothrapanties · 04/04/2014 14:23

I have every confidence that you will rock at sewing, butjust incase it craps out h&m do a wedding dress now. I saw it on telly this morning and it's really pretty and only £50.

natwebb79 · 04/04/2014 14:36

I say go for it, I really don't get spending £1000+ on a dress you'll only wear for a few hours either. I got married in a gorgeous 60S style Orla Kiely dress I got brand new with tags off eBay for £150. It was £400 when first out but I saved money buying it a couple of seasons on. I can't wait for another occasion where I can wear it againSmile

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