I have a 3 week old baby girl and she is mine an dh's first. This is my first post on mumsnet and i hope i'm posting in the right section..
My dh and been together for 8 years, married for 3. I struggled somewhat to get pregnant but didn't make a big thing of it or talk of ivf at family gatherings etc (i am referring to his family, i was more open with mine). Dh's brother and his girlfriend have 2 children (one aged 9 and one aged 5) whom i have always made an enormous fuss of and love very much. I accepted years ago that bils partner would never acknowledge the gifts in any way at xmas or bdays, even if only to acknowledge safe receipt. She's always been an incredibly self-centred person. eg if ever i spoke of something, she'd make up a story about doing it herself. She's known to lie. Even said ds was ill on our wedding day and always refers to our wedding day as when she "had the worst headache of her life" even though she forgets at the time fibbing that it was ds who was unwell. Anyway fast forward to birth of our much longed for dd - no card, text, nothing. Dh phoned brother to tell him news and he was obviously nice on the phone, but nothing else. Sil posting nonsense on fb about how tired she is and how much she "needs the weekend" blah blah, complaining to Pil's that she thinks she has MS (she comes out with very silly things, once pretended she'd been diagnosed with spina biffida, v bizarre. ONly happens when she's not centre of attention) Pils came to visit today and we were told that they would be bringing bil and sil too, but they just didn't turn up, no word or anything from them. Pil's need to grow a backbone with them, they refer to them as the 'small people' (had children at 18 but they are now well into their 20's!!!!!) and let them get away with blue murder as they still see them as 18 year old young parents. I appreciate that i'm being VERY pfb about this and of course my baby is more specail to us than anyone else but surely i'm not being unreasonable here? I just dont think it's acceptable that a whole family should just accept that 2 people can be so bloody thoughtless!