to think that this SAHD is exaggerating?

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He claims that people give him a hard time for being a SAHP simply because he's a man:

www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/fatherhood/10737648/Why-doesnt-society-take-stay-at-home-dads-seriously.html

He says: "I feel the need to justify myself, my job, my choices, in a way that I’m sure would not happen to a stay-at-home mum."

AIBU to think he's exaggerating? I get shit all the time for being a SAHM. From acquaintances and inlaws mostly. Talk that I have no 'work ethic' and that I should 'get a job', and tbh I find it really hurtful and diminishing of the WORK I really do. Which leads me to my next Q:

Why do some people give SAHPs such a hard time? Surely if you're not claiming benefits then your choice to be a SAHP does not harm them in any way, directly or induirectly?

We both work part time and my husbands work patterns (nights) mean he does more daytime/school pickups than me. Mymother in law emails him saying she is worried about him and implies i'm off gallivanting leaving him holding the babies

He gets the 'you are superdad' but also the bemused colleagues wondering about his ambition and thinking he's a bit 'precious' and also a few patronising exchanges with other sahms if he's out struggling (inplication being he's a clueless dad.

But these situations are fleeting and ultimately meaningless. Doesn't really matter what other's think. You can't control it!

The op does not say she works full time:

"AIBU to think he's exaggerating? I get shit all the time for being a SAHM. From acquaintances and inlaws mostly. Talk that I have no 'work ethic' and that I should 'get a job', and tbh I find it really hurtful and diminishing of the WORK I really do"

"DS falls over at a group, the mums will run over to pick him up and tut at DH's slow response,"

My husband really recognises this!!

It's so odd, isn't it East?

DH bloody loves being a SAHD and we have no plans to change this, yet we are always being asked when we're putting DS into nursery, or how well DH likes it (said with smirk and head-tilt).