Have nc. 22 weeks pregnant with first baby. Been with husband for 8 years.
MIL doesn't care what we call the baby because she won't use it's name, it will be nannys little prince / princess so no name needed.
FIL says breast feeding will be selfish as it means they can't feed the baby, and won't be able to look after the baby for ages because it'll have to be near me.
FIL says if I do breast feed, I shouldn't be a pathetic wimp and do it in front of everyone and not scurry into another room.
Both have said that me and dh need to stop buying things for our baby because they want to buy more stuff. They are already buying cotbed, and have bought masses of swings/bouncers/playgyms/bedding etc. at the time we had only bought the car seat and bases, but made that comment because I had looked at sterilisers in a shop.
Both have asked me to move in with them, because I cannot possibly get up the stairs to my flat, so need to move in with them.
When me and dh are asked what we'd like, b or g, mil replies before we get a chance, and says 'we want a girl'. Because she had 2 boys and wanted a girl and never did.
I'm not making any of this up. They have said all this. There's probably more stuff but I try to forget 
. I just smile and nod. I don't bite. But surely this is mad? Surely this is OTT? Or Aibu?
Dh doesn't ever really pay attention, he'll be chatting to someone else or playing a game, so doesn't hear this goes on.