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Original poster

Ex husband turning up at parents

13 replies

Skylander1 · 31/03/2014 20:33

Aibu to think my ex shouldn't turn up at my parents house after we were divorced 10 years ago? He apparently was passing so thought he would stop by for a chat! Just that!

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bragmatic · 31/03/2014 20:36

My dad always kept in touch with mum's folks. They were fond of each other.

Has he had steady contact over the 10 years? Or nothing, and then this?

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Skylander1 · 31/03/2014 20:37

Nothing for years and now this, I could understand if they had kept in contact but they haven't

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HowContraryMary · 31/03/2014 20:39

Its got nothing to do with you though. If your parents didnt want to see him, they didn't have to invite him in.

fortunately I'm two continents away from my exMIL but I do drop in when passing once every 5 years I don't have an issue with her just her twat of a son

Delphiniumsblue · 31/03/2014 20:40

It seems fair enough. Had he fallen out with them?

morethanpotatoprints · 31/03/2014 20:41

I smell a rat and it sounds like he was after info about something.
but I'm an old cynic, ignore me.

justmyview · 31/03/2014 20:42

I have fond memories of time I spent with the parents of an ex-boyfriend many years ago. If I happened to be in the area, I'd like to think I might be able to pop in to say a quick hello without seeking his permission, so YABU

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Skylander1 · 31/03/2014 20:43

In a role reversals I would pop by and see his mum I guess but I have maintained minimal contact over the years. Anyway it's done just hoping he doesn't make a habit of it and I told my mum not to tell because I have no desire to know anything about his life.

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Ludways · 31/03/2014 20:45

YABU, he had a relationship with others in your family, not just you. He probably remembers them with fondness and just wanted to say hello.

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Skylander1 · 31/03/2014 20:46

Morethan, I think that's my problem he harassed me for a very long time after we split the last text I had was two years ago, asking something very personal and sexual. He had done this to me many times, but my parents are not aware of this.

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Delphiniumsblue · 31/03/2014 20:52

If your parents are not aware you can't be surprised that they are friendly.

morethanpotatoprints · 31/03/2014 20:54

Skylander

I'm sorry, I certainly didn't mean to worry you and have no experience of this at all. It was just a gut feeling and a bit of logic.
I could be completely wrong though.
Do you have children and how old are they?
If he harassed you a lot he may feel he can't contact you now and just be catching up and finding out about you and the dc.
Could it be like this perhaps?

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Skylander1 · 31/03/2014 21:04

Delph I know that that's why I said they are not aware. Morethan it's ok I'm not overly worried I just know what he is like, he can't approach me now as I have asked him not too.

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Delphiniumsblue · 31/03/2014 22:28

Have you thought of giving them a word of warning?

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