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LO's dad & Court order

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RalphLaurenLover · 31/03/2014 19:54

Come here for the traffic.

I've just received an email from my LO's father. Stating he will be restarting court proceedings.

The court ended court proceedings in October 2013 due to the contact being extremely distressing and upsetting to my LO They stated that due to his age they can't force this upon him and that their is nothing the courts can do.

I'd take him to contact and he'd cry as soon as he'd be in the room, to the point where contact consisted of where I had to be in the room and he had to be in the waiting room and he'd still be crying for the following 5 days my son would cry to the point he was sick if I went anywhere out of site, he wouldn't eat or sleep in his bed without me.

He then stopped paying for contact at the centre and stated he wanted to come to my home. Due to DV and EA I refused this and said that someone else had to be present.

The court's said he could re-apply once circumstances have changed (which they haven't) He's now saying he's going to apply back to court to get visitation and shared residence. My son's seen him for about 5 hours tops (he refused contact from when he was born to he was a year old) where one hour he wouldn't leave me, the other hour he was asleep, the rest I spent the hour in the room and he was in the waiting room.

Are the courts likely to grant this given the fact circumstance haven't changed. My LO still doesn't leave my side, doesn't go to nursery etc and I've never left him bar my admittance to hospital Which he tried to use as evidence as contempt of court Hmm

Any advice?

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mom2twoteens · 02/04/2014 00:23

Sounds okay. I'd leave it at that now.

Also, and I hate to say this but 'our son' not 'my son' might look better however much it grates.

I'm going to bed now. I wish you luck and I'll check in. Try not to let it play on your mind too much. I say that 'cos I know what I was like.

RalphLaurenLover · 02/04/2014 00:31

Thanks I won't respond to him now, they're nothing much really to say he has all the contact details for the contact centre and the mediation team.

I know but I can't even bare to type that I know I sound really selfish but I can honestly say I've never said them to him, he's always been my son and I understand he's not a possession but I'm the only one who's not threatened to kill, kidnap or abort.

Night! Thank you!

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HippyPottyMouth · 02/04/2014 08:10

Courts are very reluctant to interfere with recent orders unless there's a change to the circumstances. There are no guarantees, but the odds are in your favour.

It's a 91(14) order that prevents further applications without leave of the court.

RalphLaurenLover · 02/04/2014 10:44

How do I get one of them?

Will they grant one it's his first application since October

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