To be upset that my son has come home with a burst lip from nursery

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dh picks up ds 4 from nursery on a Monday as I work nightshift on Sundays.

Today he left at 3.00 to pick him up at 3.10. Outside the nursery he recieved a call that he had to answer so he was late getting ds by about 7 min.

He walked up to the door apoligised to nursery worker and collected ds at door ready with jacket on.

When he got in car realised ds has burst lip. Ds has told us that he and his teacher (the main nursery teacher, it is joined on to a school) where playing with a tyre throwing it back and forth she threw too hard and she knocked him over by accident but she forgot to say sorry.

I asked him if she checked him and he said she did see his lip and asked him if he was ok, but didn't say sorry she must have forgot this was ds's words.

Now I realise dh was slightly late which is not a habit whatsoever and they may have been rushing to get him out and get home and forgot to mention this but his lip is actually bleeding and very noticeable

But I am just feel really upset/cross and sorry for ds.

I am upset that his teacher failed to apoligise to him this is not setting great example regarding manners.

I am upset that they did not put this in the accident book, notify me or get me to sign the book.

I have tried to phone and told they were on a call by school reception so dreading bringing it up tomorrow

Am I being ridiculous to be so upset?wwyd?

Thanks bookaboo. I'm not sure what I think about it, sometimes I would like a bit more detail but it does ensure nothing gets blown out of proportion. Surely the nursery staff must spend half their time filling in the book? We were at a toddler class this morning and there would have been no time for her to teach if she'd had to record every incident. The kids all seemed fine at the end!

Actually, the more I think about this, what on earth was an adult, and a teacher moreover, doing chucking around a tyre that was large and heavy enough to knock a child over? I think I might want to raise this issue with the school - it's not setting the children a very good example for one thing.

Accidents happen, but they should have let your dh know and completed an accident form. Used to work in council day centre, where this was mandatory. Your dh should not have been Late.

Obviously the tyre was meant for children's play purposes, I have seen them at nurseries. Ask the manager about it tomorrow. Tge worker should have apologised to your ds and recorded the incident and told your dh on pick up.

Just an update.

When ds woke up his lip was a lot more swollen. Approached teacher and said I think you need me to sign accident book. She got it and she had written that he was outside playing with tyre and got knocked over no mention of her involvement.

Any other issues will speak to headteacher but he only has 2 months left before summer then school so hopefully won't need too. They have increased nursery class size from 20 to 40 this year and its been a bit of mare tbh .

40 - that's huge! That's riot control!

Did you ask her about her involvement? Sounds unprofessional to me for her not to have recorded it properly. Makes you wonder what else goes on there.

Tgey should have recorded her involvement in the accident book

I know I know he would tell me if there was anything else though.

Her reply when I pulled her up about a couple of boys hitting my son that rough play is encouraged for boys development. I was not happy this was a seperate issue I pulled up a few months ago.

My neighbour has complained just a day after I posted this after recieving the same defensive responce from her regarding her own ds, so hopefully she will nip that in bud now.

Luckily the rest of the nursery workers are great at dealing with these issues and one of them sorted out the other issue for me pretty well.