Mother's Day pictures and messages on Facebook.

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I just don't get it! I don't understand the need to document it all on Facebook! Speak to each other, tell each other how you feel, but no need to advertise it to everyone you know! Is it just me or AIBU?

only if the is gluten free

It's over now thank goodness and next year I will just avoid FB on Mother's and Father's days.

I know where you are coming from though; posting messages of love to their four month old baby thanking them for the present. Erm, no, thank your DP/DH/whoever organised it and who can actually read what you've written!

I can picture future generations mortified beyond belief at how much their parents over-shared online; mine included

Spent the day with my DDs they did the whole cards & flowers thing. Brilliant day. & they still put messages on my FB page late evening. I didn't mind, it was nice to see. My OH got lots of lovely messages on his page from old friends in his home town (Manchester), who remember his DM. She's passed away. We're in London so he doesn't see mates/relatives often and he was touched that some took time to put memories of her on his page. We don't know everybody's story, do we? There are worse things one can do than publicly celebrate a mother.

People use Facebook in different ways. Some use it to document what they've got, and what they did and look back on it over the years to see what they did.
Kind of like a diary.
I wouldn't begrudge them that if it holds happy memories for them.
As a follower/friend all you nedd to do if you don't want to hear them waffling on is hide them.
They can post what they like and you'll be none the wiser!

I liked it all seeing happy families rather than drama.

Not everyone can tell their mum how much they love them. Some people's mums have grown their wings much too soon

I posted a message to a friend whose daughter (only child) passed away six months ago. A woman who had dedicated her life to her daughter and who was finding yesterday extremely hard to cope with.

I posted stuff I was eating once, because out of a group of about 7 only 2 of us kept to the date we had agreed to go out so we posted pictures of all the lovely food we ate in hopes that they would be jealous

Is it only me who has no idea what aquashiv was trying to say?!

oh who cares, my kids posted to me and that's great. love a bit of FB boasting.

far better than the 'so that's why friendship means then' cryptic posts which make me want to comment 'you are a twat fuck off'

aquashi meant yes but that the op was also boasting that she was above all this FB posting malarkey.

My DSS2 now an adult put a wonderful message thanking me for taking on him and his 3 siblings and admitting how hard it must have been. There was no way he could have physically said that as he suffered years of abuse but it reduced me and my DSD1 to tears.

How others use FB unless it is abusive is up to the individual for me and my blended family its a tool to keep in touch. We do talk and share too. I know I have been blessed to share the lives of some very special people and sometimes FB is one of the ways I show my gratitude.

well, it's no more narcissistic than everything else on FB. I didn't, mainly because BIL's mother died a year or so back and he's a FB friend and I thought he might find it a bit distressing. DSis didn't put anything up which makes me feel it was probably the right decision.

I am really into photography, I have a pretty decent camera and like to take photos and then process and post them later. Doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself/wasn't in the moment while taking photos.

I dont like it, its all to 'look at me'

However some people do and see nothing wrong with it, that is fine, for them.

Either way is fine, though I have noticed among some friends and relatives that they seem to think NOT posting pictures of all your goodies = you havn't had any. It seems to concept of not bragging is alien to some of the people on my FB

I enjoy Facebook, and like to use it to keep in touch with people, and I love to see what friends and family are up to generally. I can understand that people use it to send messages, but why public ones, why not private? I guess that's the general nature of Facebook. Maybe I like privacy more than most. One of my friends posted a picture of the breakfast made for her yesterday, a description of her dinner in the evening, and 17 other written and photo posts in between! It's this excessive need for validation that I don't understand, not occasional happy posts, they make it interesting.

YANBU - it's like people think 'shit if I don't post on Facebook what a great mum I have and how much I love her, people might think I don't love my mum '

some of the MD pictures were funny/nice/thoughtful.

my children's presents made me cry as they were so sweet but i doubt anyone else would want to see a picture of a note pad with some mum-based message on it. nor would they be blubbing as they don't know my son and it's totally irrelevant to anyone else.

shall i put a picture here instead?!?!?!

it's just braggy braggerson behaviour. some people can't break wind without posting an update about how marvellous it was. sigh.

Dh really pushed the boat out this year bless him but I didn't post pics or say what I'd received. as I know some of my good friends were upset as they have rubbish dps who didn't bother :( and it would have felt like I was being thoughtless at best and rubbing their nose in it at worst

It's getting to the stage where it isn't acceptable to use Facebook for anything! People who complain about fb shouldn't use it.

Well.....I changed my profile pic to one of me and my Mum - which prompted a few of my friends to comment and say how well she was looking. (She's not on FB - I'd already sent her a card, present and phoned). Some of those firends I rarley have contact with these days (as they live on the other side of the world), so it's nice in some small way to make a connection.

My daughter posted a (not very flattering) old picture of me, to say Happy M Day. Which was followed by a bit of gentle bantering between our mutual friends.

2 cousins who both lost their mothers recently posted something about missing them, which allowed me to let them know they were in my thoughts.

I don't think any of that was bragging (I didn't actually get anything - card, present or otherwise), but I certainly didn't mind seeing pictures of other people's gifts, or dinners out. That for me is waht FB is about. But it can be different things to different people.

I'm sick of the Facebook Police advising what should and shouldn't be shared! Its my Facebook and I should be able to write and post whatever I like without feeling awkward or uncomfortable. If you don't like what you see, GET OFF IT.

I don't particularly enjoy reading status after status about someones children but hey ho, it's swings and roundabouts

No one is saying that people shouldn't post these things OnEdgeNow, just that they don't understand it/find it smug/it irritates them.

Calm down with the shouty capitals!