To end it

[LittleDonkeyKong]

My byfrien 2 months and I were chatting over FB messenger yesterday teatime. He suddenly piped up with "Wow I think I've just found my perfect woman" so I said "who???" Up then pops a picture of a lass in a black bikini holding a gun. He goes game shooting and likes collecting shotguns.

I said "I think that's the wrong kind of gun to be using on the pheasants" (It was a light machine gun) to which he replied " I don't think I would get a lot of shooting done if she was at home lol"

I then said "Shame I don't look like that then aint it" and he replied "Sure is PMSL"

That last comment made me really upset. I was that upset I was actually shaking.

I did not reply to him and an hour later he messaged me saying "Tesco the only supermarket in the world that has no chicken" and I replied "what a shame" with no kisses as I usually do. I then told him I was very upset by his last comment to which he replied "Is all this because you don't have a gun lol" I said "No" and he told me to stop being moody!!! I told him I was not being moody I was genuinely upset and he told me that I was being over sensitive. I then ranted on as to why I didn't find the comment funny.

He totally ignored these messages and sent me the usual "Morning x" message this morning and I just replied with a hiya and no kiss. No further messages from him.

I then messaged him this afternoon basically saying I don't want to be with someone who makes me feel insecure about my looks and that I don't want to see him anymore.

AIBU????

Sounds exactly like a spat between two teenagers to me.

Are you honestly both in your 30s?
Aside from that it was a silly joke. If you don't like the guy dump him but if you're insecure about your looks that's kind if your deal. Why are you insecure about pretty women?

I honestly don't get this

You never speak on the phone?

Are you sure he isn't married?

It's not about being insecure about pretty women, it's about your boyfriend sending you a picture of a woman and saying how much he'd like to fuck her.

And shotguns.

If he's like this after two months, imagine what he'd be leik after two years...

He sounds emotionally stunted. Move on

You both need to grow up.

WTF!?

Yeah...NEXT!

He sounds about 11. (And I actually know nicer 11 year olds tbh).

Your OP makes you both sound like teenagers, tbh.

You're both in your 30s? I thought you were teenagers.

Countess

I have never spoken on the phone with my bf, who I have been with for just over a year.

When we are apart all our communication is via text. We are both the same in that we prefer writing over talking on the phone. I am much better at the written word rather than the spoken word. He is too. Obviously we chat face to face when we are together.

He is definitely not married.

I find talking on the phone awkward. Always have done.

So I don't think it's weird that OP doesn't speak on the phone with her bf.

But this bloke sounds like an arse. You are well rid OP.

OB but he also doesn't make jokes about how much fitter other women are than you...

Nope.

Because he is not an arse.

Who the hell does that? You are much better off without him. He's playing a game and testing your boundaries to see how much disrespect he can get away with. Well done for showing him none!!

Skip gleefully away from this loser!

Enjoy some time being single and then find someone better (if you want to).

You know he's never going to get that woman in the bikini, or anyone like her. He lives in fantasy land.

Have you dumped him yet?

Actually I wouldn't even waste energy dumping him. Doesn't sound like much of a relationship anyway. Just don't send any more messages and let it fizzle out.

Dumping message was sent yesterday afternoon and I have received no reply so yep its over. If he had been mortified that he had upset me it would of been a completely different story. My STBXH was emotionally shut down and disrespected me constantly by ogling pictures of women online and in RL, messaging randoms on FB and in the end cheating on me so this message hit a very raw nerve and for him to not give a shit that he upset me was a huge red flag to me. I am going to give men a wide berth for the foreseeable future and concentrate on having fun with my 2 young DDs.

Sounds like you are well rid of the man baby

I'm so glad this happened 2 months in and I didn't waste anymore time on him.

30 and 32?? Wow I thought you were both around 14 or 15. Texting pictures and 'lol' and claiming that 'no kisses' at the end of a message conveys your displeasure?

Ditch this baby and go find a real man. Preferably one who doesn't text 'lol pmsl'.

Good move, little donkey.

He sounds like a twat.

Rule number one for dating: Don't go out with a guy who collects shotguns.