to not feel sorry for Gweneth

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Poor Gweneth. She is reported to having implied that her work and life balance, as a multi-million-earning film star, is far more difficult than that of normal parents working a 9-to-5 job.

"It's much harder for me. I feel like I set it up in a way that makes it difficult because…for me, like if I miss a school run, they are like, 'Where were you?'," Paltrow said.

"I think it's different when you have an office job, because it's routine and, you know, you can do all the stuff in the morning and then you come home in the evening.

"When you're shooting a movie, they're like, 'We need you to go to Wisconsin for two weeks,' and then you work 14 hours a day and that part of it is very difficult. I think to have a regular job and be a mom is not as, of course there are challenges, but it's not like being on set."

I wouldn't swap places with her either, because although I'd be richer and thinner I'd also be a dickhead.

NuggetofPurestGreen yeah, you're right re VB, although she somehow does it in a quiet way.. And when I see those lovely children of her's my heart just melts, she is a great mum and I admire their protection of the boys from the media spotlight. They look well brung up and happy young people, nice compared to a lot of celeb offspring who look troubled, sad and in need of a hug

Spring I'm sorry to all the Gwyneth apologists but any multi millionaire who begins any sentence with It's much harder for me' can fuck right off

Couldn't have said it better!

at Gwyneth apologists

I want a badge or summat.

so true balloonslayer, she's assuming that she'd be earning at least 200 thousand dollars a year in this office job, and so would her husband.

She isn't visualising a scenario where she earns little more than a childminder after tax.

Makes me sick.

Firstly, its her choice to work...she could easily stay home with her children.

Secondly, she can afford the best nannies money can buy. I'm sure she doesn't need to panic that she is running late and after school club is closing in 5 minutes.

Thirdly, she is doing a job she loves...imagine being away from your kids to sit on a reception desk for 8 hours.

Finally, when she finishes work, she won't have a pile of ironing to get through or a house to clean.

boo fucking hoo diddums

Yy she is imagining that she would be the CEO of Facebook (or similar) and can't actually invisage herself earning £18k pa and getting the number 26 bus home, picking the kids up from a childminder and then making dinner. She is invisaging working a well paid 9-5 complete with Nanny, housekeeper and possibly chauffeur.

I actually do feel a bit sorry for her.
It must be dreadful to have a marriage breakup and 1000 times worse to have it all over the media.
Sure she has a mega well paid job but working unpredictable hours & missing the children would be the same whatever you earn.
I once heard her on Woman's Hour and she came across remarkably sane.

Ofgs what a wally.

Can't stand the woman. There's something about her winging simpering smugness that has always done my head in. It's odd cos I've found myself sympathetic to Catherine Zete Jone's personal problems (junkie stepson, hubby with cancer, her own bi-polar) so it's not envy of her beauty and film
star rich status.

Yup to Kate Moss quote - "never complain, never explain".

What a prize tosser! Unlike those women doing 'office jobs' she doesn't need to work. So could be at the school gates every day if she chose. Others wrk as a necessity.

Does she really think we are going to feel sad for her ? I have never liked this woman. She is highly arrogant and esspecially narcissistic.

She has her own website Goop . Com , which is basically her ponitificating to us mere peasants how we should live/ mother/ eat etc etc

Gosh I don't like really quite get her point.

Just a thought. If you are an average earner in the UK then you are closer in lifestyle to the Beckhams or the former Paltrow-Martins than you are to someone in Somalia. I forget where I heard that.

^This. This this this.

If we don't allow Gwyneth to moan from time to time when things are tough, then we need to make sure we never moan ourselves. There are always plenty of people worse off.

It's not easy being a human. Not for anyone.

The only thing that makes me feel some sympathy is that I do remember the terrible irritation of everybody's opinion after I left my x. Not only does she have to contend with her friends and family's disappointment (and some judgement perhaps??) but she has the world judging too. But it ends there.

I think this thread is well, a little nasty. A marriage has broken down, however it was phrased, her children are now from a broken home. This wasn't what she was expecting.

yes, she probably doesn't need the money, but maybe she needs to feel self worth through working. I know that's a major part of how I get my self worth, even though i adore my children.

haven't you heard "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?" seems to me that a lot of people on this thread are jealous of her money, without thinking about how hard she's had to work to get it. You hardly ever see these types of threads about men.

Yes I am jealous of her money. And she may have worked hard to get it but she's hardly down the mines is she?! Plenty of people work harder and they aren't zillionaires

And I'd say the exact same about a man who was moaning about his job.

His highly paid amazing job I mean. Normal people can moan about their jobs

People are missing the point. And bending over backwards to be inclusive and pc about her.

Bollocks to that!

It is offensive to imply - well practically state - that her incredibly affluent and privileged lifestyle (that she's been afforded from birth let's remember) is somehow harder than a 'normal' persons! Because she works on movie sets for approx £100,000 a week with nannies and assistants etc etc.

It's not about not feeling sad for her and Mr Coldplay or the children (I do feel bad for anyone in their current situation), it's about the outrageous, out of touch, offensive things she says.

Re the Somalia analogy - yes, of course we there are always people far less fortunate. But personally I wouldn't ever say 'Ok well Somalians have it hard as many are living in poverty and lost relatives to disease or war - but I think it's harder for me doing a three hour commute and paying for 10 hours of childcare a day'!!!

It's rare that I feel sorry for people I don't know. This person is no exception to that.

She only got into 'acting' due to her parents.

Well they were both pretty established when they had the children, weren't they so I'm thinking that a lot of the time they could have one of them doing the school run if the other was away or childcare was an option.
And unless they regularly just went off without telling the kids, why wouldn't they know where she was??

'without thinking about how hard she's had to work to get it. '

PMSL!

We all know that we don't ONLY work for the money.

I do. I also know that I am lucky to have the choice over the hours I work and money I earn, and I am nowhere close to a millionaire lifestyle.

If she had even said 'I know I lead an enviable life, but I still find it hard to be away from my kids, even when I am on a film set' then I would have more sympathy. To make a blanket statement about those who work regular hours having some kind of idyllic lifestyle because they can do the school run makes her sound completely delusional.

expat I know!!! V funny. God people on Mumsnet fall over themselves to appear fair, liberal, good hearted, worthy without actually thinking about the shite they are spouting!

'Working hard' in Hollywood means either coming from a rich, connected family or schmoozing and begging your way up the acting chain or being born beautiful and thin. In her case - all three.

I actually feel quite sorry for her.

She comes across as really insecure to me, all this painting herself in the best possible light at all times.

I don't disagree with her that working unpredictable hours, and being away from the family for semi-long stretches must be pretty tough.

She lost me she she said, 'It's much harder for me', though.

comeatmefam- yes!
Did you Somalia invokers go to the same school of sanctimonious bollocks as poor old Gwyneth?