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Can this be true

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Fusedog · 28/03/2014 15:16

I was at baby gym toady and supermarket bills came up and we were all moaning about how much our shopping is ECt I was especially bemoaning the price of fruit and veg and one of the mums who has 4 children said

well I don't buy any fruit and veg so I wouldn't no I said you mean fresh fruit she said no Fresh or frozen I just have ready meal or oven stuff we have a TV dinner on a Sunday I just buy 6 one for every one*one

I went quite when I can home I told. Dh and he said people do eat like this

Can this really be true no fruit and veg AT all won't you get skervey

I no there are people who eat a lot of oven food chicken nuggets ECt but this can't be true surely especially with children in the home

OP posts:

Feartheescalator · 29/03/2014 21:39

Yeah, I was wondering about ECt too. And baby gym toady - sounds fun

honeycrest · 29/03/2014 21:48

It seems to be the case going by what the op has posted that this woman can afford to buy fresh stuff but instead chooses to buy processed food and ready meals. If that is the case then she is lazy and is not providing a healthy diet for her children. Those ready meals are full of salt which is very bad for kids (and adults, but more so for young children) and a diet high in processed meat has been linked to cancer. She can eat all the crap she wants but she should at least attempt to give some healthy food to her kids.

I get that some people can't afford to buy fresh fruit and veg (although, surely even frozen veg will do and that is cheap enough) but if you have the option and don't then I find this a bit selfish.

Original poster

Fusedog · 29/03/2014 22:02

Baby gym lots of fun

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meganorks · 30/03/2014 04:37

Well I'm with you OP. Children should be given fruit and veg and just fresh food generally. I honestly wouldn't have thought there were any parents who could afford to not buying any for their kids. I Thomas that's pretty bad.

GiraffesAndButterflies · 30/03/2014 05:01

and all the while you judge her for her diet, someone is judging you for your spelling, grammer etc.

Everyone's favourite pedantry fail

Wurstwitch · 30/03/2014 05:04

Findus crispy pancakes. Fray Bentos pies. All those other 'convenience' foods of the 70s branded as time saving deliciousness.

You don't have to be poor to eat processed food. It's a lifestyle choice - choice being a subjective word if you consider upbringing and culture. It was very popular 30 years ago. V trendy. dead common to be peeling spuds.

But yes, your grammar and spelling are dreadful. Can the woman ping ping meals woman spell? Would she judge your literacy levels? Maybe she just has different priorities?

It wouldn't be my choice (two out of three of mine have had interesting food issues related to sensory processing and physical disability respectively) but sometimes there are bigger things to worry about. The fact she is out at baby gym suggests either she has a relative interest in her child's development, or she has been advised by her HV to get out of the house more to help with her depression...

Wurstwitch · 30/03/2014 05:05

Giraffes, I assumed 'grammer' was deliberate, as a reference to the 'grammer police' thread of yore.

Wurstwitch · 30/03/2014 05:06

I'd say the deliberate use of atrocious grammar and spelling, and a thread about ping meals was probably someone likely to get me deleted for troll hinting, though.

Some sort of attempt to prove that literacy is more important than nutrition on mn?

Wurstwitch · 30/03/2014 05:07

Aaaaaaaaaaaaand I love hinting. Presumably you can't get deleted for hinting, just hunting.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 30/03/2014 10:12

Can anyone see the irony that on here it is acceptable to take the piss out of people's spelling and grammar, but if someone does not possess the basic life skill of feeding their children with basic healthy food, we are only allowed to feel sorry and make excuses for them, and we are not allowed to say 'that is wrong'.

It is not hard or expensive to feed children with things like porridge, beans or eggs on toast, baked potatoes, meals using pulses and seasonal vegetables etc etc.

All these can be done with basic cooking equipment (a microwave and a toaster if necessary) and are much cheaper than shitty processed food.

Food is the number one priority, closely followed by rent and basic bills and tax credits and benefits ensure that no-one who has children cannot afford these.

If they choose to spend that money on something else, they need to be prosecuted for neglect, long before they become the tip of the iceberg that is Hamzah Khan or Daniel Pelka.

Mumto3dc · 30/03/2014 10:28

Well I'd be as shocked as you op!!

Just wow...

And I don't really agree it's too expensive to eat fruit and veg. £1 for a big bag of mini apples or pears.

Carrots are cheap as chips and loads of dc love munching on a whole carrot pretending to be a rabbit!

Bananas are pretty cheap too and most kids love those. Cucumber ditto.

Stop making excuses for poor parenting.

hoobypickypicky · 30/03/2014 10:30

"Some sort of attempt to prove that literacy is more important than nutrition on mn?"

If it is, IlkleyMoor has fallen for it.

And IlkleyMoor, you're mistaken - the capping of housing benefits means that there are plenty of people with children who can no longer afford rent.

TheCunkOfPhilomena · 30/03/2014 10:42

Fusedog, you posed the question "Can this be true?" (question mark supplied at no extra cost). Well, yes, yes it can be true as is evident in your OP.

Now, can the false incredulity stop please? I'm not sure why you have posted this other than as a way of starting a bloody judging competition.

FWIW, my DS(3) will not go near any fruit unless it is at least partially dried. I know you're probably wondering what I give him with his cheese, well, I give him apple crisps HTH.

Buckteethjeff · 30/03/2014 11:09

ikea not people who are poor started off that way. Many get in to financial difficulty through no fault of there own.

Sounds like you had a shit childhood , but you have to stop projecting on others. It's not up to you to pass judgement on other folk or any one else, if they don't want to eat a fucking apple.

What your actually creating is a tier system where only well off people can buy nice things for the kids. Dem poor folk only allowed apples and oranges at Christmas.

Each to there own - maybe your mum fucked up having kids she couldn't afford . Blame her.

sarahandmallard · 30/03/2014 11:43

It's not a question of:

1/ whether the woman can afford it (OP clarified she does)
2/ whether the children will eat or like fruit/veg. The mother doesn't buy them. Any of them. And she didn't say it was because the kids don't eat it, only that she doesn't buy any for her family.

Yeah, I'm pretty shocked. Wouldn't most add, it's because my kids won't eat it?

Moomey · 30/03/2014 11:44

I wasn't judging op's grammar. Genuinely wondered what ECt was. I'm new to mumsnet so thought it was an abbreviation for something. Wondering if op now means etc

Panzee · 30/03/2014 11:50

My son also hates fruit. And nearly all veg. (And most other food, to be honest.) He will occasionally deign to eat some cucumber or tinned tomatoes.

He is the only one who didn't get sick out of our whole family when we got throat and chest infections a few weeks ago. :o

ikeaismylocal · 30/03/2014 12:12

It's not up to you to pass judgement on other folk or any one else, if they don't want to eat a fucking apple.

I don't judge people who don't want to eat an apple, I think people who say "I'm too poor to afford healthy food for my family" are wrong because I think that most people do have the choice to feed their kids healthy food, it's down to their choices.

What your actually creating is a tier system where only well off people can buy nice things for the kids. Dem poor folk only allowed apples and oranges at Christmas I'm not creating any such thing, I don't agree with the shocking lack of support families in the UK get, I don't live in the UK so I haven't contributed to the current system in anyway, I don't even vote in the UK anymore. When in a crap situation you still have choices, they might not be ideal choices but you still maintain some control, people who say they can't afford to feed their familiy healthy food should say I have other spending priorities over buying healthy food and I have so little money that once the things with a higher priority are payed for there isn't money left over.

SauvignonBlanche · 30/03/2014 12:20

ECT usually means electro convulsive therapy but the context appears wrong.

SauvignonBlanche · 30/03/2014 12:24

My DD (who has no SN) eats virtually no fruit or veg, judge all you like. Her older brother loves them both, they were weaned the same way.

You have clearly lived a very sheltered life OP if this woman's diet is so shocking to you.

Dawndonnaagain · 30/03/2014 12:31

If they choose to spend that money on something else, they need to be prosecuted for neglect, long before they become the tip of the iceberg that is Hamzah Khan or Daniel Pelka.
ODFOD.

heisenberg999 · 30/03/2014 12:31

My children eat loads but I only eat fruit and veg a couple of times a month, but Im super healthy. Im really slim, low blood pressure, low chloestorol, exceptionally flexible like a gymnast and aged 30.

TeaAndALemonTart · 30/03/2014 12:41

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