To think wedding anniversaries are YOUR celebration

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And I shouldn't be expected to send you a card.

My Mum likes to remind me of her and various family members anniversaries so I can send them cards .

Why should I? Some of them decided to get married before I was even born and others I don't see that often so why should I observe an occasion that has absolutely no relevance to me whatsoever?

You got married, you had a big party for it. Great. Now why do I have to remember it forever?

I forgot to go was meant to be followed by a blush.

Yanbu. The only anniversary card I've ever bought is for a friends 1st anniversary. that was only because I had come across a voucher for afternoon tea at their wedding night hotel and knew they would like it.

It's our 1st anniversary in a couple of weeks and I imagine our parents might get a card for us but I wouldn't expect it. As you say, it's a personal thing for the couple.

Yanbu. My mother always reminds me of people's anniversaries. I'll say "oh wow, that's nice," and then she'll say "you should call them."

Right. Because that's what they want on their anniversary. Phone calls.

I give one on the first anniversary if I've been to the wedding, but don't after that. I'd give for a 25th/40th etc but don't really keep track so would need someone to remind me!

On the whole anniversaries are for the couple really.

YANBU, my ILs seriously fall out with us if we don't send a card and gift for their anniversary and call them on the day. (We forgot once because we were out of the country and they didn't speak to us for months.)

Their anniversary falls in the middle of two of my dcs' and my df's birthdays and the month is expensive enough as it is.

They send a card and some money for ours every year, but I'd rather they didn't. Not sure why, but it makes me uncomfortable.

To be honest I have no problem with giving them a call and wishing them a lovely day, but it's the expectation that have to buy a card and present that bothers me.

MIL also makes a big deal of reminding us of other family member's anniversaries (sil, bil etc) but we have an agreement amongst ourselves that we just nod and smile then don't bother sending cards to each other.

YANBU, I quite agree.

I have no idea when anybody else's anniversary is, and don't expect anyone to remember ours. It would feel odd to get cards, presents unless we were having a party for a big number one.