AIBU to think you can't wash up without using a plug?

[drawohamme]

So the dishwasher is out of action until next week. As I do all the cooking, DH is in charge of clearing up afterwards. He asks me to dry the washing up whilst he's doing it as there isn't much space on the rack.

So I watch him run the hot tap, squirt fairy on each item, frantically rub it with a sponge (just the inside) and hand it to me without rinsing.

Of course I'm handing stuff back still covered in soap, food etc.

He goes nuts, if he can't do it his way I should do it myself.

He's now sulking upstairs.

Is it just me?

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I remember the section in the brownie handbook (circa 1975) showing how to do the washing up! There were pictures of glasses, plates, cutlery, pots & pans with arms, legs and faces queuing in the correct order. I believe it was part of a badge along with making a cup of tea properly. Don't suppose they do that anymore. DD was a cub as brownies was too girlie for her, they mainly run round the hall shouting.

i do that too, damefanny

Did I miss a memo somewhere?

Suddenly its gone from 'never let anything other than pure water near your fanjo' to 'scrub it with mint original source shower gel and a brillo pad'.

Now it seems that I've been doing the washing up all wrong. I have done it with washing up liquid and a washing up bowl, like in the adverts ( ), but it seems that is yuk and dirty.

Have I missed anything else?

waste of water and soap.

and he is sulking? Have you married a teenager?

Sounds like an excuse for a sulk. He could do it his way, but pop each thing under the running tap before handing it over - it would then not be sudsy and if it needed another rub that would be obvious.

But anyone who goes off in a sulk when you won't dry a filthy dish with a clean teatowel is obviously not a grownup.

Tomorrow night, I'd walk out of the kitchen and leave him to it. He might work it out when the teatowel is filthy after a couple of items...

I put things in the washing up bowl as I go, but rinse them off under the hot tap and sponge them down before putting them to dry. I used to only ever use the tap but it is a massive waste of soap and water.

I hate the thought of a bowl of old, dirty food festering away, but I know I'm weird for it. It's because my parents are lazy and would often leave things 'soaking' for days and demand I then washed up. Digging around in cold, stinking water full of food debris has scarred me for life.

I wipe under running tap with the scourer side of a sponge, usually without soap. Probably takes five to ten seconds per item to get them clean and rinsed. (Pots and pans might require soap and take a bit longer.)

husband does this too- drives me mad! I wash up in the sink, glasses first, then plates, then cutlery then pots and pans. Everything gets a good soak, a good scrub and a good rinse. I can always tell when DH has washed a glass up as it still looks greasy!

You should not be drying up, a teatowel just smears food traces and bacteria over all the plates.

They should be left in the rack to dry.

Of course they should be rinsed after washing.

Did he live with his mum before you got him?

Ah the old "ooh if I don't do this properly she'll do it for me" trick.

Jolleigh, great minds think alike!

clareG, my mum taught me, and her mum taught her, but she was a Girl Guide!

I can't watch my DP wash up any more. He says I'm being OCD. And makes me sit down in the lounge. Thank goodness we have a dishwasher now so it's only a few things that need to be washed by hand.

'How to wash up' was also in the brownies handbook.

Can you remember the recommended order? I think it was glasses first, then cutlery, then ordinary crockery and finally pans. (Not quite the same as Suzanne!)

Anyway we have a washing up bowl. Your husband sound slike a big kid.

DH has always been pretty domesticated so no problems with this particularly but when we first married I had to keep telling him that if there were pots that had been left to drain, then when he came to wash up some more stuff it was pretty stupid to do that before putting away the previous lot of pots - otherwise he would be piling wet crockery on top of already dry stuff.

I think this is just him not minding getting on with a job that can crack on with quickly and get out of the way but not liking the fiddling time-consuming jobs like putting stuff away. In a similar vein, if he gets stuff out of the washer and there are still things hanging on the clothes horse, he is likely to put the damp stuff on top of the dry stuff because he is not keen on all that is entailed in putting it away - e.g. pairing up socks and so on.