To be sad for dd?

[Sparklysilversequins]

Dd's best friend is from Somalia and is Muslim.

It's dd's birthday in a couple of months and we we're going to take her and one friend to Legoland (dd chose this particular friend) and then have a small party for around 6 of her friends. Dd's friend has told her that she can't come to Legoland, her party or any play dates as she is only allowed to go to Muslim homes and parties. By this I assume only parties of children who are also Muslim.

They are 6 and 7 respectively. I really had hoped these issues wouldn't raise there heads just yet though I imagined they might as the girls got older.

Dd doesn't really understand and I don't know how to explain it any positive way tbh.

[Timetoask]

She really should go and live in a muslim country then, she is divorcing her child from a large proportion of people in this country.

[TheGreatHunt]

I fail to see how being anything other than a Jehova's Witness would prevent you from attending a birthday party

Disagree. Any religion makes it barking.

This is about social integration. Putting up barriers begs the question, why live in a country where you don't want to mix with the locals.

[Sparklysilversequins]

"This girls parents believe they are doing what's right for her and that's what we should all be doing"

Ok then, it's fine for me to say that dd cannot attend any social engagements where there are Muslims or visit a Muslim home, IF I decide that's best for her then Erik?

[softlysoftly]

I don't get it? why isn't she allowed, I have a large muslim friend base and muslim inlaws )though none Somali) and have never come across it

What are the reasons does anyone know?

[StarGazeyPond]

Because people want the advantages of the UK, but want their own 'country and values' within those confines. A lot of immigrants actually do not WANT to integrate I'm afraid.

[softlysoftly]

Oh and yanbu probably a good thing if the other girl does go off with someone else, hard for now but better for your DD to make other friends sadly :(

[Sallyingforth]

So sad that this little girl is not being allowed to integrate with children of her adopted country. As she is a Somali, am I BU to wonder if she is a victim of FGM?

[hackmum]

I also wonder what the reason is. Is it a fear that she will be given food that isn't halal? Or is it a bit like "catching the gays" - the fear that whatever religious belief your family does/doesn't adhere to might rub off on her?

[yegodsandlittlefishes]

This saddens me greatly. Dd2 (14) has a great group of friends. 3 or 4 are Muslim, two have (serious) health related restricted diets and activities and the other has allergies. They are all able to go on a cinema trip together. Not all, but some are allowed shopping together, all of them are now allowed to eat together (some bring food from home) and only the non muslims go to sleepovers (but one has had a sleepover at her house.) These girls will be friends for life, I think.

[GertTheFlirt]

I'm familiar with Somalis. This is not unusual for their girls.

[Bakingnovice]

My ds has invited his best friend every year to his party. His friends parents have refused to send him and he isn't even allowed to have a birthday Lolly ds took in one year. His parents are JW. I have never had any issue with any of his Muslim friends attending parties or get togethers. In fact they also arrive with a heap of food to gift us, and when ds goes to theirs he is always sent with heaps of Tupperware containing homemade food and treats.

My dd was invited to a sleepover a few months ago at the home of one of her friends. I refused to send her, mainly because I am extra cautious and don't want her sleeping over, but also because sleepovers are not something I want to get into.