Mothering sunday, iapbu

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I asked dh to speak to his siblings re sunday to see if one of them can spend the day with his mam, as we needed to go to my mams,

His bro is working which is v fair, but his sis has said no, shes not visiting until easter, that was it, ffs she lives 20 mins drive away

My sis is also working and my other sibling has said she isn't traveling this weekend as she came home last weekend and lives well over 2 hours away,

So yet again me and dh have to split, I will go to my mums with dd, and he will go to his with ds,

I am raging, yes I know we are lucky neither of us are working, his mum is only 5 mins away and mine is only an hours drive, yes we are blessed they are both still alive,

But ffs would out be too much to ask that I get to spend the day with my dh and children, we always get stuck with mil duty as neither of his siblings pull their fingers out as we are "only up the road", and my sis could have put off last weeks visit to this weekend, and she doesn't have kids so isn't getting spoilt with breakfast in bed or lunch with the kids,

So yes iapbu, but I feel a bit better after that rant

Not sure what all your stress is about really, at the end of the day you may see it as MIL "duty" but she's your DHs mum, he might want to see her the way you seem to want to see your own mum.

Folks - it's just another day. Just another poxy day where people let themselves feel guilty if they are that way inclined. Just another day which has been taken over by commercialism.

Make your own special arrangements but these don't have to be on Mothering Sunday.

If anyone else gives you the guilt trip then take control of that and don't make it your issue.

Gah! None of my three children will be with me on Mother's Day. As they haven't been for the past 10 years. It really doesn't matter.

Also, you have no more pressure on you to visit your MIL that your DH's siblings do. Take a leaf out of their book and make your own plans for once!

CaptainTripps exactly and if anyone cares there are plenty of other "official" mothers'days they can pick if this Sunday is a disappointment.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day#Dates_around_the_world

Well it looks like iabu, but not for the reason I thought I was, I think it was beastofburden who asked about my mum and mil not getting on, that is for another thread, a long thread, but in short,

something serious happened few years ago, my family met mil in her local pub to wait for news from us, mil behaved appallingly, she grew legs on the saga and ran with it, she was crying and roaring and made things up as more people came to sypathise and join in the gossip, mean while my parents looked on in shock horror of the antics, so sense then they have gone as nc as possible,

Have lovely day planned for saturday so am happier

now, would be v easier if I didn't believe in the day myself but as I do, I would never leave my mik our mil alone, but will be doing things differently next year,