To wish people would RSVP?

[scaredoflabour]

Hi, I may be BU but feeling stressed.

We're having a birthday party for DS1 who will be 4 next Sunday.
I sent out 8 invites (keeping it small as it's my first venture into the world of children's parties which may be why I'm stressing about this)

Half the parents haven't bothered to RSVP yet. I know there's still time but I gave the invites out a week and a half ago.

It also just so happens that the responses I have had are from the parents of the little girls so it'd going to be ds and lots of little girls at this rate. I know that doesn't really matter but it would have been nice to have a bit of a mix, he's already outnumbered by his sisters.

YANBU

This drives me crazy. I invited about 25 kids to DS's party, I had about 5 RSVP and about 18 turned up.

DD's Christening was even worse. Not a single person from DP's family RSVP'd. We invited about 70, about 20 people RSVP'd (mostly immediate family who were of course coming) and about 50+ people came.

We are sending out wedding invites in the next couple of weeks and I am so tempted to put something on the invites on the lines of 'if you don't RSVP there won't be any food for you'. But of course I know that I can't really do that so I will just have to pluck a number out of thin air for the evening reception catering.

Soooooo bloody rude!

Pasithea You mean they told you publicly that you were not invited? Good God!

FloppyRagfDoll Booked flights for an event to which you had not been invited but thought you were? Heaven help us! What sort of world are we in? That reminded me of the following.

Well, I don't care who reads this because it will probably out me. My DH and I, in UK, were invited to a family wedding in Europe. Okay so we accepted and booked flights. The bride's father, my BiL, heard that I had not changed my name on marrying DH and withdrew the invitation to me because my non-name-change was disrespecting his long deceased mother (my DH's mother). My lovely late DH then declined his own invitation because he didn't want to go without me - his wife. We lost £400, the flight cost.

What is the matter with families these days? I will never forgive my BiL. Sorry for this hijacking a children's party thread.

HappyAgainOneDay, your story is just terrible. At least mine didn't involve family. I am so sorry. Your poor DH. I am very glad that he supported you, though. It sounds as though he was a lovely person.

I think I hijacked before you did. Sorry folks. Put it down to all-over-the-place-brain syndrome.

YANBU. This used to piss me off so much when my DCs were of an age to have parties (thank God those days are past). Whenever mine received an invitation I responded as soon as I could and just assumed everyone else was the same, however, it would appear that some people are too bone idle and rude to bother. I often wonder if they're holding out for a "better offer". Either way, it sucks.

Hi, glad to know it's not just me.

I feel like I've gone back in time myself feeling like an under confident teenager thinking, 'why does no one want to come to my part/ don't they like me/ my ds?'

Have asked nursery staff to ask them if they're coming or not now. Can't stand the stress of it!!

my party obviously

People who don't reply to invitations are rude, ill mannered tossers. No reason to think it is anything to do with you OP.