To not want dh to go to a meeting 2.5 hours away when I am 39 weeks pg?

[Beegey]

That's it, really. He is insisting that he must meet up with this client, at this time (or a week earlier). This is dc3. Dc1 was born a couple of days before her due date and dc2 was exactly 39 weeks. I had a crappy time with various complications each birth.

I don't have any family around so if I did go into labour quickly I would be on my own. I really don't want to be unreasonable and am finding it difficult to judge objectively if I am being ( given I am tired and 37 weeks now!)

YABU. It can take 2 hours to get from one end of London to the other. I can't imagine saying to my DP that he can't go to the other side of town if I were 39 weeks pregnant. What are your childcare arrangements for when you are in labour?

Sorry that example was a bit ott, but you know what I mean

None of us are indispensable-we just like to think we are.

so you think an employer would be happy if you basically said "i am only doing part of my job for possibly the next 5 weeks, then having 2 weeks off"

Unfortunatly the world can't come to a standstill and people need to carry on with life until the baby is ready to make an apperance

My dh stayed within 2 hrs of me in the last couple of weeks and he has a very demanding job which involves a lot of travel, there is really no reason why he couldn't change the meeting under the circumstances
Thatbloodywoman I totally agree with you!!

What Sirzy says.

Hmmm. I think unless you have always had very short labours then YAprobablyBU. Lots of people have a commute that long every day. As long as you can be sure he is contactable in an emergency, I can't see the problem with him going.

My dh also stayed close to home. Although his work prefer to host than send people a good lunch is cheaper than travelling so fully backed him asking his clients if they could come to him under the circumstances.

One of the best things I ever did at work was to barge into a top level, do not disturb under any circumstances type of meeting and tell my boss that his DW had gone into labour early - she was 3 weeks early.

All the other suits clapped and cheered, one even offered his chauffer to take my boss to hospital. Nobody minded, but I had a couple of calls in the next day or so asking for news. (A little boy, healthy and happy).

It can happen. Your DH shouldn't be going unless he has really solid plans to get back to you urgently.

Y are being a bit U unless you labour super fast.

If the worst DID happen and contractions start whilst he was away, have a plan as to how to cope on your own for a couple of hours. Warm bath, yoga ball, TENs machine, something to grip (warm towel etc).

It sounds like an important meeting and unless you want your DH to be glued to your side there is a chance he won't be around when you do start labour anyway.

My now ex dh went to the other side of the country on my due date. Very much despite my requests not to. We lived away from family and i had dd1 aged 1.5 at home with me. Never have I felt more alone or abandoned. Of course he could have got out of going but ultimately chose not to. It said a lot to me about where I say in his priorities and if I am truthful I never felt the same about him after that. I was at my most vulnerable and he buggered off. Fortunately I didn't go into labour, but when I did it was start to finish in 40 mins. I would have been alone with a toddler with no means of getting to hospital. I genuinely could never get past it and feel it contributed to the break down of our marriage

OH has a few meetings around the country over the next few weeks with it been end/start of tax year. I am due the 9th with DD2, i doubt it will happen that quick.

Really interesting comments, thank you for the feedback. In hindsight I think I have bu.

Dc's will be with au pair so that element is thankfully sorted, I hope.

Apparently the client can't make any date sooner. Dh travels around the country often and was in Edinburgh last week (we live in Greater London) and I was under the impression that was his last 'trip' but suddenly he needs to visit this client. But work is important to him and pay for our daily bread and peanut butter so maybe I am not in a position to complain.

As he works for the client, there is no way the client can/will travel closer to us. The onus is on dh.

Dc1 was typical first labour, took days. Dc2 was much faster, within a few hours. I have had to have surgery after each labour and have a fair bit of fear and anxiety re this upcoming birth and I think it may be that anxiety which is blighting my judgement about this issue.

Tbh I am pretty sure the baby will be born soon so hopefully this will all be acedemic...

Disagree about it being unprofessional to pull out of meeting at last meeting or leave early…perhaps the best excuse on the planet.

Absolutely.

Dh worked just over 2 hours away when I was pregnant with DD1. I phoned to say my waters had broken he was watching a 'very important' corporate video with his colleagues. They yelled at him and kicked him out. Not that there was any hurry. She took a further 2 days.

My DH flew to a job interview for 5,000 miles away when I was 37 weeks pregnant. His parents came to stay with me for the 3 days that he was away. It was an unavoidable situation so I just dealt with it. Sometimes things in life come up and your DH is only 2.5 hours away so he can easily come back if anything happens.

Do you have a friend or anyone who can be on watch that day that he is away? There must be someone trustworthy in your life who can keep an eye on you besides your DH. If not, and you really might end up giving birth alone a week early in a time span of 2 - 5 hours, which sounds highly unlikely to me, then I suppose YANBU.

Can't he have the meeting via Skype?

I don't think you are being unreasonable to want him to prioritise you... Unless he talks to the client he doesn't know their thoughts. The client could be a family man absolutely horrified at the thought of your DH potentially missing his child's birth for a business meeting...

I wouldn't like it - DC1 was 39+6, natural delivery, 7 hours from first contraction to birth. DC2 was 38+2, EM c-section, 1 hour 40 mins from waters breaking to delivery. DH just made it for that and we live right by the hospital!

My third came two hours after I realised I was in labour. My first two labours were much longer.

I didn't think DH would make it and he only works 20 minutes away...

YANBU.