Mother's Day

[GoatsHaveStrangeEyes]

Dh and I don't agree on this issue.

I say it's fine to take mil out for lunch on Mother's Day, our treat to her.

He says we must invite his stepdad too (even though he moved out of the family home a few weeks ago but on good terms).

He says I'm pushing stepdad out? I said no, I'd propose the same situation even if they still lived together.

I just thought it would be nice for us to treat her for a change. Aibu?

Well, if they were still a couple then yes I would expect both to be invited out even though technically it is about his mum.

However, as they aren't a couple then I think it's a bit wierd unless she really wants him to go.

I would ask your MIL what she wants. If you are saying its your treat to her why don't you say you are happy to invite him or not and its her choice as the situation is clearly a bit complicated.

I don't think it's weird to take just her out. You could take stepdad out alone on Father's Day. If you were having a general family dinner I would agree you should invite stepdad, but Mother's Day is her day.

When is Mother's Day in the UK? I've seen a lot of threads about it, but here it's not until the second Sunday in May. Is it a different day for you, or are you all just more prepared than I am?

It's 30th March, this Sunday.
And I think ask MIL, if she wants him there then invite. If she doesn't then don't.

And your treat to her, means you're paying for her, don't pay for him if he comes otherwise it's not a Mother's Day treat.

Hmm I think mil might want him to come. I invited her and she just replied WE will be there. So guess it's already decided.

I think she finds it difficult to cut someone out (she has been divorced from fil for all that time yet still has him round for christmas lunch every year!)

It's a very complicated set up and I can see it being awkward at the table but if that's what she wants then I can do that.

I would just take her lead. If she wants him there then problem solved.