AIBU to provide you no context...

[Illysidiot]

...but tell you that I've just been called a 'fat cunt' by my DP. He shouted it at me as he stormed off down the corridor.

Is it ever forgivable?

Not saying I plan to forgive, just want opinions. Feeling a bit, well, fat and shit.

Sadly yes scoop so it's a big mess to untangle myself from.

Ah the ol displacement rage; I fucked up but I'm making it your fault.

You really do not want to be looking at him for the rest of your life. Hard enough when you like 'em. ;)

Live long and prosper x

DH and I have been married 18 years - the strongest thing he has ever called me is "you silly thing" or "grumpy beggar" (which is probably deserved at least some of the time!). He has never ever addressed me with a proper raised voice in anger.

I find it very sad that so many people seem to think that abuse and aggression and vitriol is normal in a healthy relationship, which should be built on trust and respect and concern for one another.

Sadly yes scoop so it's a big mess to untangle myself from.

The sooner the better.

Wow what a charmer.

I'm the same age as him. He sounds like a spoiled 15 year old.

It's separate bank accounts/finances time. Start saving for a deposit.

Or can you go home to your parents?

Oh you poor thing!!
In all my time with ex and though some very very heated, horrible rows (and we're similar ages) he would never ever have said that to me. And I really was both of those things

Please realise you're worth more than this and don't downplay it.

Get rid. Hopefully you just rent so won't be too much of an issue. If you have nowhere else to go is worst case 2 months notice?
This does not sound like a keeper

I agreeith the others.

If he is making his problems your fault, and being foul about it then running for the hills is the only way to go.

Sorry this has happened OP. He sounds awful. I'm with everybody else. Get rid of him.

If you accept this sort of behaviour, what will he do next?

Well it's time to find the end of that string and start unravelling

Ex-h used to call me a 'stupid, fat dog' all the time. He still does if we ever have disputes over contact with DC, but at least I can either put the phone down or shut the door on him now.

There is no future with this man. unless you also want to bring a small person's lovely fresh ears into this relationship to learn how to abuse you too x

Does he have any redeeming features OP?

He sounds like a teenager. Even my 16 year old son checks to see how much money is in his account before buying a game .

So, let me get this clear - he spanks money you don't have on video games, incurring fees which again you don't have, then shouts unspeakably foul names at you for protesting?? Get. The. Fuck. Away. From. Him. Now.

Oh, and YABU to not provide context, as you ended up needing to do so anyway.

Another one saying get rid - this is definitely one to throw back in the sea.

Stupid.
No financial sense.
A twatty gamer
Nasty
Unfair
But most of all stupid.

Come on! Don't you want a happy lovely life?! Ditch him!!