AIBU to be pissed off with know it all SIL

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SIL - has 2 DC. I am pregnant with DC1.

She is giving advice and instruction about my pregnancy and my baby at every possible juncture.

I am just starting to feel the baby move and was talking about it at thwe weekend. She pipes up in her loud mouth way and says that there is no wa y it's the baby, it's just wind - I should not be so stupid.

DH was talking about taking the baby swimming fairly soon after it arrives - heard it's good for them, might be a nice father/child thing to do. She pipes up, no way. You cannot take DC swimming until it's had it's injections.

Every SINGLE thing we say she tells us we are wrong. I actually do not want to see her or speak to her until after the baby arrives in August because I am getting so annoyed.

AIBU? Any advice on how to handle her (without killing her)?

Send her a link to waterbabies and tell to read the journey. The youngest baby they have started to teach was 2 days old.

I was given a lot of unwelcome advice by a relative. Mercifully this stopped after a family event when she overheard my 87 year old Gran say 'Don't take any parenting advice of her, her kids are little shits'. Can you get your nan to do the same?

Smile and nod, then just do what you want anyway.

Oh, and once the baby is born, never ever admit to feeling tired unless you want to hear 'tired? You think you're tired? Try having two children then you'll know what tired is!' etc etc

Being old, I'm staggered about the swimming, if only because of the chlorine!

In slight defence of SiL, it is very common for women with children to dole out advice to pregnant women at every opportunity. Occasionally they are right!

Is it just her manner you don't like?

I'd see less of her. She sounds like an unnecessary irritant at the moment. Be busy more and make excuses.

Littlebluedog I hear ya on that. Or ds is a great sleeper so I get s lot of 'one day the naps will just stop' or 'xxx used to be a great sleeper, now he's up at 4.30 every morning'

Or cos ds is really good, I get a lot of people warning me dc2 will be a monster... Like they're looking forward to it!

Why do people with kids do this shit? My best friend is pg and the best advice I could give her was to warn about all the advice she'll get but some of it might be helpful so just take the bits you want and ignore the rest!

For starters I felt fluttering a from DS at 16 weeks and yes you can take a baby swimming before they have their injections!

I like the poster who said to say "we've had so much different advice from everyone we're just going to do what our midwife says".

You will know your baby best and don't let her or anyone else try to undermine you. It's fine to give advice but she sounds like she's not giving it for the right reasons but to put you down