to ask dh to talk to his mom about childcare when I go into Labour?

[HelenHen]

Mil will be minding ds when I go into Labour with dc2. However she works full time and afaik cannot take time off at short notice. Both sils also work live nearby and have the same issue! They can all get away at short notice in an emergency, Eg. I go into Labour and dh is not here. Gmil lives about half an hour away, retired and available on as daily basis. I have no family nearby.

Presumably there are enough of them to figure something out themselves. But I feel like it's unfair to just presume they will figure this out. The scenario I'm thinking of is if I have to stay in hospital for any period of time, who will watch him during the work day? Presumably it will be gmil but I think it's rude to be presumptuous!

I have asked dh if he can call his mom to ask and every time he gets annoyed and tells me to do it and he doesn't understand what I'm asking. Yeh, I could just ring and ask but I'm always ringing and asking them for favours and I just think, this once, he should have the chat with his mom.

Helen my issue was that there was the possibility of me spending the last 5 weeks of the pregnancy in hospital, as it turned out it was fine and I didn't need to. Mil looked after ds whilst I was in labour and I'm sure that she would have stepped up and helped if I had required help before the birth.

I don't think everyone realises how important it is for an expectant mum to know that there plans in place for existing children. It really added to my stress in the last few weeks of my pregnancy.

Ah glad it worked out and that you understand. It's easy to presume somebody will do something or dh will just figure it out. I'd like to think things will be kept relatively simple for ds as he's in as pretty good routine and loves it. Things are gonna be turned upside down for him as it is!