Dh thinks I am the one being unreasonable.

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We had a long standing engagement booked for next week. Its a sporting event that Dh and dc do. This year (8 weeks ago) dh offered for me and him to organise it this year. I hate the sport but was happy to help him out.

Now he has told me that he can't make it because of a social occasion at work.

I think that is bang out of order because now I am left holding an event that I would never have offered to do if he hadn't asked me to help.

He thinks that because he said yes to the work social he cant now say no and explain that he forgot he already had something on that night. And he doesn't want to say no, he wants to go.

I am furious with him and he cant see why. This is nothing to do with his job - its purely social.

AIBU?

I can see that the OP is not going to back out because to do so would punish her DC for her H's selfishness.

Get through the event, OP, and then sort out a treat/night out for yourself and make it non-negotiable.

Well.... to be blunt.....if he is insisting that he is going to the work social and you won't cancel it then you'll just have to get on with it.

Dragging - she doesn't want to let other people down which is understandable.

She has every right to be extremely annoyed about it, though!

OP you are not letting other people down, he is.

Stuff like this would kill any respect and love I feel for someone. Don't let him treat you like shit!

How would you be letting others down OP, your supposed to be helping the organiser, not doing the organising.

Does he not see the difference?

Could he at least find someone else to organise & you still help?

your dh is being an arse, not sure what you can do really because you wont back out, I cant see why a work jolly takes priority

Oh WOW Have just read the thread again & its Mothers Day!!
If you are not too fussed about Mothers Day then fair enough!!
But I for one do not like to be taken advantage of on MY 2 days of the year-my birthday & mothers day!! If he was to arrange things in advance with MY feelings in consideration then OK!!

I would back out. You weren't the organiser, he was. You agreed to help only, and it isn't an event you particularly enjoy.

Tell him it is off. You won't be doing it alone. He should not have double booked himself and needs to take responsibility for that.

He is an arse, and I would not enable that.