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To think its unreasonable for my SIL to ask me to babysit her children with slapped cheek when pregnant

52 replies

pinkpompomispretty · 21/03/2014 21:53

I don't know if its just my hormones or not. My SIL rang tonight and hubby answered and she asked us to have her children overnight whilst she went to a distant relatives wedding tomorrow. Im 25 weeks pregnant and both her children have slapped cheek. I have already told her that as far as I know I haven't had it so why she rang up tonight to ask I don't know. What annoyed me even more is that hubby didn't say no. He didn't directly say yes but said he couldn't see it being a problem and I would text her and let her know!! I just feel really p**d off that im the one left to tell her no and shes bitchy anyway so will prob cause an argument. Am I being unreasonable to expect hubby to just tell her no??!! And to expect her not to even ask in the first place??! Grrrrrrrr

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LondonNinja · 21/03/2014 22:56

No brainer. Don't take the risk.

She sounds like a cow in any case.

WeAreSix · 21/03/2014 22:57

I agree, don't do it.

But if your DH doesn't have a problem, maybe he can look after them and book you into a rather swish hotel :)

IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKahleesi · 21/03/2014 22:57

YANBU

but don't text her, your 'D'H can do that

TeaAndALemonTart · 21/03/2014 23:00

Tell him to call her back and tell her if course you're not having them.

I had slapped cheek a couple of years ago and its horrible. I couldn't get off the sofa I was really ill.

Bugsylugs · 21/03/2014 23:09

Has the rash come out? If so not a problem. Unusual not to have been in contact with it before.
At the end of the day you can say no.
Not unreasonable for her to ask depending on state of infection ie after rash

PartyOn · 21/03/2014 23:09

You could catch it off DH - does he realize this?

tanukiton · 21/03/2014 23:15

NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! There copy and past that ! :)

OlympiaFox · 22/03/2014 00:15

It's not worth the risk of getting sick, let alone losing your baby. Absolutely not and keep your husband away from them too.

LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot · 22/03/2014 00:28

I remember when DD had Slapped cheek, it was awful, you are so not BU to refuse, the risks to your baby are too high.

You and your DH need to keep away from those kids while they have it, the risk is just not worth it.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 22/03/2014 00:35

She was UR to ask he was UR to not say no and YANBU to refuse point blank

GingerBlondecat · 22/03/2014 01:32

and what about all the people at the wedding she willl also infect if Sil is carrying the virus herself

could also have pregnant woman there too. not to mention elderly.

PartyOn · 22/03/2014 01:37

I don't think your SIL should go incase she does infect people.

brettgirl2 · 22/03/2014 07:25

I'm sorry but you can't not go out because you may be carrying a virus no one would ever go anywhere! No problem with sil going to wedding.

Sil is being unreasonable expecting anyone to look after her sick children, however let alone a pregnant woman. Yanbu op.

hamptoncourt · 22/03/2014 08:35

As PP have said, you need to keep yourself and DH away from her.

And yes, it is DH you should call her back and tell her no. Why on earth does he think you should be doing this? He sounds a bit pathetic to be honest.

Finola1step · 22/03/2014 08:59

YANBU.

Your DH is BU and should just call his sister and say that you both will not be able to babysit.

Your SIL is BU to ask anyone to look after her ill dc so she can go out. It's very late to ask anyway so either she was going to take the dc before or someone else was going to babysit. In both scenarios, I would put money on her having to change her plans because her children are ill.

I don't care if I get flamed for this but if children are ill, they need their parent(s). Going out for an evening while your dc are ill is crap parenting IMO. Yes, there are situations where it's unavoidable (work related etc). Yes we all need time to ourselves and bit of a social life. But when your children are poorly, you stay at home to look after them, not go out for a jolly at a distant relatives wedding.

Do not put yourself, your unborn baby and your DH at risk because if your SIL's selfishness. Tell your DH to call her.

rollonthesummer · 22/03/2014 09:13

DH's responsibility to sort this out.

When did they get the wedding invitation? Yesterday?!

LIZS · 22/03/2014 09:19

presumably whoever was originally having them has said no . Can your dh go over to theirs ?

Nennypops · 22/03/2014 09:47

Tell her the doctor says no. She can't argue with that.

007licencetostandonamolehill · 22/03/2014 11:13

DH must ring and say no. Or tell her you spoke to MW who says no.

maddening · 22/03/2014 11:19

Tell her if she pays for a night in a posh hotel for you then her brother can look after them at yours? Or dh could go to their house for the night?

Yanbu and she would be utterly unreasonable to take it out on you - she should havr had this organised before now!

Pigletin · 22/03/2014 11:21

I think your problem should be more with your husband than your SIL. Tell him it's not going to happen and he needs to tell her.

OurMiracle1106 · 22/03/2014 11:29

My reply would be. I am sorry I am not able to baby sit as both your children have slapped cheek and this could harm my unborn child. I am sure as a parent you understand that you don't expose a child to unnecessary risks. I hope you manage to find someone

IAmOptimusPrime · 22/03/2014 11:30

Please, please, please don't go, My friend had it in pregnancy and it has caused many problems for her beautiful child.

diddl · 22/03/2014 11:30

"He can't see it being a problem"

I wouldn't flame him for that he maybe just didn't think.

But now that he knows that it is a problem he can text back saying no & why.

BelleateSebastian · 22/03/2014 11:33

Resounding YANBU :) relax, tell her your midwife has advised against you (or DH) doing and have a bar of choclolate :)