To HATE it that my baby smells of my friend's perfume

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Since a cuddle this morning my baby has smelt strongly all day of my friend's perfume. She's lost her own lovely baby smell. I have wiped her head twice with a damp cloth and then bathed her this evening and I still can't get the smell off.

Think I'm probably too polite to ask my friend not to wear the perfume if she visits us again but does anyone else know what I mean?

YANBU. I never wore perfume when my babies were small, and I often had to give them a bath after my DM or friends held them.
I feel really uncomfortable when they smell all wrong.

I like Wigglesrock's post. OP... how about you keep your baby all yourself. Don't hand it to anybody then it will only smell of you. Just don't whinge and whine when nobody is interested in anything to do with your child. It takes a good friend to be interested in the first place, because other people are not, just remember that.

I asked my mum not to wear perfume when cuddling my newborn - in my defence she does wear a lot and it used to give me headaches in pregnancy although looking back I'm a bit embarrassed to have asked (she carried on regardless!).

Hmm, despite gaining a wicked sense of smell when pregnant, I have NEVER smelled the 'baby smell' that everyone raves about! Perhaps my son never had it? Or maybe he pooed so much that I never managed to smell it without a whiff of bum in the air, but I simply have no idea what everyone is talking about when it comes to new baby smell.

However, YANBU to secretly think these things but YWBVU to ask your friend not to wear perfume - the smell will go and you don't want your friend to think you've completely lost your marbles!

That is a lovely post, Wigglesrock"! You''ve hit the nail on the head - baby smelling of perfume equals baby being cuddled! Very* reassuring when you have left your little one with someone - gives you peace of mind!

I don't get this baby head smell people rave about... To me they smell of milk and (sometimes) nappies...

Sorry, emphasis was all wrong there! (Must put in contacts!)

Sorry DoJo unconsciously copied your post!

I was the same when my children were babies. I didn't mind when they smelt of friends' perfumes but MIL bathes in Chanel No 5 and it was horribly strong on the baby. Would have to bathe them after every visit.

I hated this and did mention to friends once.

I can tell exactly who dd's been with just by smelling her. And she came home from her first nursery session today smelling like the nursery room.
I hate it, and complain loudly to DH about her smelling wrong.
However, I'd never say anything to anyone because I know it's my own personal irrationality.
I guess it's one of those animal instinct mum-and-baby type things.

I'd feel the same. You know when smokers stub a cigarette out, and keep it? I had a health visitor arrive to check my 2 day old baby. I was so angry, shed obviously just smoked in her car and stank. I made sure I handled the baby, and she didn't really touch hi,, and afterwards I bt he'd him, my room also stank after she left.

When you hang around others and in different environments you do naturally pick up smells. The solution to to wash yourself and your clothes.

The only alternative is not to let anyone else to hold your baby. I do think it's unreasonable to fret about such a minor thing.

I felt the same but I never said anything because I didn't want to come over all crazed PFB.

It's nice when they smell of nice things. I don't know what it is about the smell of other people's children though, especially primary age ones, they just reek of child and I can't bear it. Maybe I'm a witch, but I've got toes and hair and my spit isn't blue.

YANBU. MIL does this all the time. DS still smells after his bath and having hair washed. Sometimes he smells the next time he wears the hoodie he was wearing when he saw her! I think it is actually a perfumed lotion that rubs off on him.

It pisses me off because she insists she isn't wearing any fragrance. And I am super careful about what goes on my skin because DS suffers eczema and is super sensitive. We have to source fragrance free laundry products etc. And then she rubs this allover him!

Babies have a lovely delicate aroma it is a shame to cover it.

My MIL fake tans (she's in her 70s FFS) and when she cuddles DD, DD ends up smelling that horrid biscuity smell. YANBU.

Jesus some people are really quite vicious.

when I was a cm one parent commented that her toddler smelt of my coconut skin rub. she liked it as I think it showed her that I cuddled him. I did. lots.

the only thing I don't like is a lipstick pout on a baby. that's a bit rank.

now you should smell a class of reception class children on a friday afternoon like I will tomorrow.

dead farts, smeared yogurts, cheese strings and, if I very lucky, a snotty hug of one or two of them.

Mine used to get bathed straight after nursery if they ever returned smelling of perfume. I have chemical sensitivity and I don't like my kids to smell like the lodging house cat

Freewee I certainly intend to fake tan at 70!

Sparkling cat which perfume is it? body cat favours obsession.

I found it odd when DS1 came home from nursery smelling perfumed and wrong. Its not so bad with DS2 as its familiar, and stirs memories of DS1.

OP I know exactly what you mean.

I posted something similar years ago and I got the equivalent to .

When DS2 was born a midwife held him for a bit (few mins) and handed him back and he absolutely reeked of rose perfume.

It was really strong. Gone was his new-born smell. He was only a few hours old, I was gutted.

I dread to think how many brand new babies she did that too.

I can still remember the smell of her perfume.

I have no memory of his new born smell.

That is really sad Sack. I do think though that the new baby smell lasts quite a long time so you won't have missed out completely. If I could bottle it for memory's sake I would. It would be interesting to know if my DCs smelt the same or not.

I think smell is really important, at least to some people.

A farmer told me that at lambing time they often remove one triplet lamb and rub it with the afterbirth of a still born. Very often the bereaved mother will then accept it as her own

What a load of PFB bollocks, I'm actually sat here laughing at how ridiculous some people are! Get over yourselves!

Thanks for that Fust.