To think this is a bit mean

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This happened at the weekend but I can't get it out of my head.

I baby sat my DBs 2 children on Saturday night, niece 9yo and nephew 5yo

I arrived at 6pm and at 6.15 my DB have my nephew a bowl of sweets, a drink, and told him it was time to go to bed. I said its a bit early and that he could stay downstairs with me and niece to play (I actually would have quite liked some time with my nephew)
DB said no, every Saturday night nephew goes to his bedroom to watch tv whilst they watch a film with niece then he left

I went upstairs a few times to see if he was ok and he was just sat in his room watching peppa pig

Anyway SIL arrives home from work at 9pm and nephew comes down to see his mum
So basically he has been sat in his room on his own watching tv for 3 hours

Why could he have not just sat downstairs with us watching a nice film?

I didn't say anything but DB has asked me to sit in with them again this weekend

His house, his kids, his rules ect but I just feel so sad for him

Would it be possible to have them both sleep over at your house this weekend instead of you going there ,that way it's your house and your rules without having to worry about possibly upsetting/ offending your brother.

First rule of babysitting is you don't do what the parents ask, but resort to fun things!

Poor little mite. If I was doing the babysitting, and naturally family, I'd not have left him up there on his own. I don't see why as his aunt, you had to follow your DBs rules on this one, considering you were doing them a favour.

Floral I would love to but honestly don't have the room as I have 2 lOs myself, unless I kicked DP onto the sofa, but he works a 16 hour shift on a Saturday so would be less than impressed

I think it sounds a bit strange. .certainly not something I would do..if it was my brother I would be having a chat with him to ask the reasons, just cos its his house and rules doesn't make it right. I feel sorry for your nephew, bet he would rather have been watching something with you. Don't just accept the situation. .say something.

Also don't understand why they all can't watch a dvd ona sSaturday night! Something they could all do together ( sounds as though family time is precious what with shifts etc) sounds very odd to me..he's only 5! My ds wwould be distraught if I did that..would never be cruel like that. Anyone would think he was 15!

No wonder he is attention seeking! That's what children do when they don't get enough attention!