Do I send a condolence card?

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Neighbours who've tormented and been absolutely hideous to us for years. The man has just died of cancer, in the last day or so. Do I send a condolence card to the woman who absolutely hates me. She's written awful letters to our landlord, stolen things from us etc.
Do I rise above it and be the better person and send a condolence card? I really don't know what to do. Would appreciate some thoughts please.

Slightly different I know but we fell out with a friend..awful. We sent a birthday card as usual to their child 6 months later and was told by another mutual friend that they tore it up in front of that child with some choice words. That made me feel bad. I wouldn't as you know they might think you are being being sarcastic.

Its a sad situation, and in an ideal world, I would drop a card through, and it would be accepted gracefully. But, from all the messages, I realise it could be seen as something other than being good natured.
Thank you

No, she'll probably think you're taking the piss. Vile though she may be, she's probably got enough on her plate to deal without fretting over the neighbours "laughing" at her plight.

No way would i send a card

I've spoken to a close friend who knows how much upset neighbours have caused, and agrees also not to send a card. Still a sad situation, but, it doesn't excuse how much torment they have caused our family.

Nope. She sounds like she'll twist it into something it's not.

No.

I had a lot of issues with my Next Door but one neighbour.

She developed aggressive Cancer, I didn't offer condolences, she has now died.

I gave to the collection that another neighbour did for flowers, she was a long standing resident, I grew up in the area.

I did this for her young Grandchildren's benefit.

Her adult children are as horrible as her and I wouldn't/haven't offered condolences.

Sorry you had issues too birdsgottafly. It amazes me how vile some people can be? We're all different, but I'm of the saying we should live and let live

Frankly I wouldn't. He was a twat. Now he's a dead twat. He's not going to bother you again. Leave it at that.

no. You are being the better person by not sending a 'good riddance' card!!

No, I wouldn't. And what's the bloody point of anonymous flowers?