To hate student neighbours?

[LittleMilla]

We moved in to our first home in June 2012 and have painstakingly renovated it. We love it. But there's one small problem: the house next door (not attached to us) houses 8 students.

First year was fine as we hadn't done the garden and the students were relatively quiet and not really much bother (big stoners). This year has been much harder - 8 hard-partying boys.

Weekend saw 4 of them come back at 6.30am with mates and they were then in the garden all day drinking/popping pills. Cue lots of wide-eyed individuals and a dealer coming at about 4pm to provide more drugs.

Weve got two little boys, love to use our garden with friends/family but this is all upsetting me so much. I am contemplating just moving as I cannot handle another shit summer if the next lot are like this. When they're all out there 'on it' it is hard to relax and the garden wall is so close - they may as well be in our garden.

The boys individually are OK and I've been in at various times since last June to chat about bins and few noise whinges. I just don't know what to do. The music is at a reasonable level, so I can't complain about noise.

During my rational moments I tell myself that living in a city with two universities students are an inevitable part of life. And crap neighbours can happen to anyone - at least I know that this lot are going in June.

BUT I HATE HAVING THEM NEXT DOOR TO ME!!!!!!!!!!

AIBU and WWYD - move or adopt more coping strategies?

www.gov.uk/how-to-resolve-neighbour-disputes

we're doing this at the moment
try it - it will work

We share an old tenement building with students. One night they had a party - ok - but then one little prince, who appeared to be unable to handle whatever drugs they were taking - decided to try to kick my door down. I was alone and terrified with my children. I heard a friend drag him away but he managed to smash up the building door leaving blood and glass everywhere.

Luckily one of the university lecturers also lived in the building, We both went up and he coolly informed them that if the party continued he would call Strathclyde Police (not known for their understanding approach) and they would search them all for drugs.

not a peep was heard for the rest of the year

I have to say we have a lovely group of far eastern students now who just seem to have lovely home cooked meals together and study all the time.

I would just report them to the police. I have zero tolerance when it comes to drugs affecting my family.

Exactly. Why wouldn't you? Those students are adults who are breaking the law at your expense, and you have no obligation to protect their 'right to party'. Honestly, I graduated less than a year ago at a normal young age and still think that is total BS, I can't stand this idea that we need to extend childhood into early 20s and remove all personal responsibility.

I wouldn't want to report them to the police as a first resort because it could entirely fck up their lives in the future. So I would always try other means unless I felt in danger/there was no other option.

The naughty one who I missed earlier in the week knocked this am (having seen that we were in our sitting room). Apologised profusely and said it won't happen again - he'd invited a work colleague over who had apparently invited the rest of the crusties back when he'd gone to bed. Said I wasn't bothered by the logistics, they just needed to either go elsewhere or stay in the house after all-nighters as they seem to lose the ability to make any judegment.

Re:holidays, this lot have barely left! Quite sad actually as the naughtiest one literally went to his mum's (I think?) for a few HOURS on xmas day . Prob helps explain some of his mental behaviour

Little I think your overstating the police role here. The most they would probably do is come in and tell them they have had complaints, and if they saw any visible signs of drugs probably caution them.

They wont come at dawn to do a full drugs raid on some tripped out students.

Police have acces to an on going problem house here with an always open front door, when called on a weekly basis, they just knock and have a word.

However for the students, they would certainly sit up and take note by having them called.

Those students are adults who are breaking the law at your expense, and you have no obligation to protect their 'right to party'

^, little your heavily invested in these students lives and goings on.

As said before, set yourself a date, and if nothing sorted by that date get tough.

If you give an inch people do take a yard.

I really sit believe that they have a right to party at all. I guess I'm quite intimidated by the police (even tho my dad was a copper) and wouldn't want to waste their time. Would prefer to try and manage myself and only call them in if I felt out of my depth.

I've made it clear to boys that dealers rocking up is entirely unacceptable and would not hesitate to call police if I saw that again.

Ha, the little fuckers are at it again, altho not in the garden.

Been over already. Will call 111 as there are a load of fcked up ppl again. Perhaps they can pop over to ask them to call it a day/night?

Oh their new leaf didn't last long did it! How was the rest of Sunday?

What happened? Face ios you have spoken to them about it and they have ignored you. It's not like you've called police out of the blue.

Sorry- correct me if i'm wrong, but aren't most drugs illegal? Why are you not reporting them to the police and/or their landlord?

how do you KNOW it was a dealer? How do you KNOW they were "popping" pills?

or are you just making assumptions?

OP keep your nose out of their business if thier in thier house and not in the garden. How the fuck do you know what they're doing anyway, are you spying on them?

Pls excuse typos, I can spell honest.

DP and I are in Brighton. He's a student. We Specifically live in areas that don't have as many students and no way would we buy in areas which have students living next door or Tot close because the potential risk for problems is too high. I really sympathise, but you must have known that there were students next door when you bought the place?

you must have known that there were students next door when you bought the place

What's that got to do with anything?

Doesn't sound great - especially if a dealer is coming over. I would have a word with them and say that, if they are going to do illegal activities, that they do it out of sight of you and your children. I am sure their landlord would not be very pleased about it.

Just that there would be a real possibility that she'd end up with some not so great ones at some point and would have to deal with it in some way. Not wanting to talk to the police about it is an issue because it'd be the main way of dealing with the drugs and when the noise is antisocial, that too. If you don't want to report it then living there would become worse and worse.

I've lived with similar types and have had to move, it is part of the risk of living in the area and in house shares, but equally is why we'd never buy near HMOs and avoid areas in which HMOs and student homes are common.

I have realised though that i missed page two so op may have decided to speak to the police there.

We have always lived in buildings with HMO's. We have expectations that students will respect the fact they share the building with families and elderly people.

This means we get in touch with university/ landlords and as a last resort police if they continue to be antisocial. A few years ago the police turned up at a party and arrested a couple of students for possession of drugs.

I'd just have a quiet word now and again. Certainly don't escalate. Your kids likely won't have a clue. And if they do, it's a good way of introducing them to the idea that drugs basically make you into a gibbering tit for a few hours, before they're old enough to get told otherwise by their own gibbering tit mates.

Alternatively, drop the kids off at your parents and join in :-)

So I called the letting agent yesterday who has taken it all very seriously. The landlord is already cross with them about a load of rubbish that's been rotting the garden since Xmas (!!) and the bottom line is, the house hasn't been re let this year because of the state they're keeping it in. So ultimately they're affecting his earning potential which means he's obviously more interested. He asked me to email over everything and he's going to talk to ll about next steps. I am feeling hopeful from the tone of his call an emails.

We are in Bristol and those that are familiar with the city will attest that it's nigh on impossible to escape students. They live in even the swankiest parts of the city. Yes we knew there would be students and I was probably a little naive. As I've said before though, last year's lot were ok and behaved within pretty normal boundaries. This lot are a different kettle of fish as the house becomes some sort of drugs den come the weekend.

The boys have at no point denied the drug use. And tbh, that isn't my issue either really. What upsets me is that there are increasing numbers of unsavoury characters milling around day and night in various states. Of course there's the music etc that goes with it.

A student house is one thing, but some sort of crack den is another.

Tbh OP you sound like the nightmare neighbour not the students. You've already said they're not noisy. Why is it your business what they do in thier house?

I get the feeling you're checking on them and looking for reasons to complain.

Pinky. I'm going to come and live nextdoor to you and rave 24/7 seeing that it's not a problem and wouldn't bother you.

Well they're not 'raving 24/7' are they? If you read the thread you'd know that.

I read the thread thank you.
I just think that the OP is quite reasonable to ask people not to party all weekend and have loads of people she'd rather not have near her children around the house.

Tell the police about the drugs and dealer?