Can I have a rant pls about 'ill' DH! Im prob BU

[brightonbeachbaby14]

Apologies for this probably long and Boring post but just need to VENT

My baby is due today and no signs that he is on his way, my usually lovely DH has been 'sick' since I started my maternity over 3 weeks ago!! He first had flu and it seems to have turned into sinusitis, he seems to be getting really sharp pains in his face several times a day and its keeping him awake at night. Luckily he gets to work from home so this helps. The problem is this pain is making him in such a foul mood and depressed he's really putting a dampener on my maternity leave. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells round the house, we hardly speak unless he feels well enough. It's so ANNOYING.... This is meant to be my time to relax and for us to look forward to our baby coming but this fricking illness has overtaken everything!!! I know I probably sound like a spoilt brat, I hardly ever get ill myself and really have to make a massive effort to be sympathetic but three weeks of him feeling sorry for himself is really getting on my tits. He said this morning after another night of no sleep 'this is a real crap existence to live in' ARGHHH GROW A PAIR!!! HOW WILL YOU COPE WITH NO SLEEP WHEN THE BABY COMES??? obviously I just went with something like 'sorry you feel that way darling'

also this stupid illness has put a halt on decorating the baby room, we ripped up the carpet a month ago and need to repair and sand floorboards, he isn't the best at DIY so used this illness as an excuse not to do it, I feel gutted that I haven't been able to get his room ready before he comes... I want to nest!! when will we get chance to do it???

Ok, rant over, please feel free to tell me IABU and give me a slap round the face- just needed to get it all out after 3 weeks of playing nurse wifey.

Sorry it's soooo long and self indulgent!!!!!!!

He doesn't sound at all well to me. I think YABU to have put "ill" and implied that he is malingering. If he has chronic sinusitis or something worse he'll be in pain and I'm not surprised he doesn't feel like getting on with decorating the nursery.

He should go back to the GP though as the antibiotics haven't done the trick and he might also need some different pain relief.

I had sinusitis for 3 weeks recently. God it was awful. I felt like my face had been hit with a frying pan. And yes, I had awful pain in my gums, teeth, and my eyes felt like they were about to explode and constantly streamed, too.

My GP didn't prescribe me antibiotics. Just sent me on my way telling me to take pain killers and to drink plenty of hot fluids. I popped decongestants like they were going out of fashion, went through countless boxes of tissues trying my hardest to clear my sinuses, and used Vicks nasal spray but nothing really helped. It was just awful. I literally wanted to rip my head off!

How long has he had it? I had it for a week, then it seemed to be clearing for about 3 days before it got worse again!

YANBU to feel the way you do. Everyone pictures what it will be like in their head when their baby comes into the world and it is sad when things don't go to plan. But trust me, if he is feeling anything like I did, he would probably welcome you ripping his head off right now

YABU. I had severe sinusitis a few weeks ago and it was unbelievably painful - I've never felt anything like it, and I've given birth twice. And the really bad part lasted for a full 3 weeks. Antibiotics did nothing, pain relief did nothing. I could practically feel my teeth vibrating with the pain. It was horrific.

Give the man a break. I'm afraid you're being a bit precious.

I know I know I am!!! Just having a bit of a selfish rant, I feel really sorry for him I can see he's in genuine pain and for it to go one or so long must be rotten for him,

Get his to do steam inhalations with apple cider vinegar in. Smells gross but DH swears by it.

Sinusitis is agony and not to be trivialised. Even if it's something else, your DH needs to man up and get himself seen. He has the right to feel miserable, but he does not have the right to refuse to help himself and do the best for all of you, including his soon to be new baby.

YABU - I have suffered severe sinusitis for years. It really is awful, much worse than a cold. My doctor told me I had to just wait for it to go away. 3 weeks is not unusual unfortunnately - can go on for longer

Nasal irrigation with cool boiled water with added sea salt helped to clear my sinuses. Maybe your DH could give it a try?

Hot showers and baths helped me when i had sinusitis, I was pg with ds and couldn't take anything. I was in agony.

However, I was still able to perform my household chores, look after the other children etc.

It is agony, but he needs to be more conscious of you and your feelings.
Absolutely the best of luck xx