To not be bothered about Wedding Anniversaries?

[Writerwannabe83]

It is mine and DH's first Wedding Anniversary today and it's fair to say that I really don't see the big deal.

We haven't got each others cards or presents and we aren't planning on celebrating it in any way. I said "Happy Anniversary" to him this morning but I doubt it will be mentioned again

When friends/family have their Wedding Anniversaries I never buy them cards either.....I feel it is just another ploy by all the Card Making Companies to make people depart with their money

When my friends asked what me and DH were doing to celebrate they looked at me in amazement when I said "Nothing"

Is it just me????

We usually buy small gifts for each other using the anniversary year as a theme, so wood, leather etc. Just makes it a bit more interesting.

I usually send people a first anniversary card if I've been to the wedding, but don't bother after that. I've done a few golden, Ruby etc if someone's reminded me!!

We don't either. We don't celebrate much. Birthdays are a token, never bother with Christmas, valentines is a no-no.

I've been married twenty odd years. We haven't celebrated a single wedding anniversary and we haven't bothered with Valentine's Day since we had DC. It's no big deal.

Haha this thread has just reminded me that my anniversary was last week. , we have both forgotten.
But it makes no odds to us , I can never ever remember how many years we've been married , as we were together for 15 years before marrying ,
I could tell you how many years we've been together. , as it's exactly ten months longer than the age of out ds lol.

Ashley - Good! We did appreciate them but thought it was a bit weird!

I was talking to my friend about it, her 1st is in June and she thinks it's weird too so I know I don't have to send her a card!

We used to give each other cards and go out for dinner sometimes or he would cook. Our 24th was my daughter's school leaving ball and we got sozzled on champagne so fell asleep. We wanted to celebrate our 25 th as we knew due to DHs ill health we probably wouldn't get to 40. I love having friends round and family. Sadly he died 100 days before our silver wedding. I do still mark it though.

We've been married 20 years. We tend to use it as an excuse to buy a takeaway.

We usually forget ours entirely!

We don't do presents for birthdays or Christmas either. We can't really afford to do it and it isn't really important to us.

When we were married a year we sent cards and didn't think it warranted much fuss. When we had been married two years we forgot and got the old cards out and wrote in them again and put them up. It was a bit of a laugh. We will have been married for 24 years this summer. It has sort of got more important and those two battered cards are now very very special, inserts and all.

When you have got over the humps that every marriage gets through and come through the other end and still love each other it becomes more important with every year.

It's our silver wedding next year - we are going to have a massive party and invite as many of our wedding guests as possible.

musical I am so very sorry.

I think you should do what ever works for you as a couple.
For us, we celebrate everything! Birthdays, anniversaries, everything. He travels for work, and brings us back presents then too.
We also do the day to day things, like breakfast in bed, special meals, or massages and foot rubs. It works for us.

I don't see why everyone has to be the same, just do what suits you. We celebrate everything, but it isn't compulsory!

I'm rubbish but DH is a real romantic - this year I was up and out early to travel to catch a train for a work thing. When I was sitting at the station, rummaging in my bag for something, I found an anniversary card and present. I'd totally forgotten. And he'd booked us in to a lovely hotel for a Spa night. He likes surprising me and thinks it's funny that I forget (I hope). I forget his birthday as well.

So sorry for your loss, musical.

for tunnocksteacake and musicaltheatremum - OP I don't think you are boring - dh and I have been married for 12 years. He is the kind of man who always seems surprised when Christmas rolls around and once argued with ME as to the date of MY birthday

We have never celebrated our wedding anniversary and once (accidentally) were upgraded to a suite in a v posh hotel ds1 in a cot with us because I mentioned it at check in - It was Easter weekend.

We have a lot of family birthdays and Easter and Mothers Day around the time of our wedding anniversary 6/ 4 so it's always seemed that there's enough else on !

We've never bothered with ours. It's only a couple of days before my birthday anyway.
I only remember because MIL sends us a card.

We celebrate it. Cards and wine with maybe a nice meal out if it falls on a weekend. But its for us - we don't expect anyone else to even remember when it is. Neither of us have ever forgotten.

But lots of people don't - you just need to do whats best for you. Nothing worse though than one person wanting to celebrate and the other not - so make sure you both want the same thing :)

Thanks everyone for your replies - it seems quite common to let the day pass by unnoticed

We have received two cards, one from my DH's colleague and the other was from my DH's parents.

There's no chance of us ever forgetting the date as we got married on my dad's birthday - and God forbid I ever forget that

It's totally up to you, as most people have said.
I think we probably did have a meal for our first wedding anniversary - any excuse, pre-dc to go out for any reason, but don't do anything these days. Will probably do something to mark our Silver Wedding if we last that long