To *sometimes* dictate plans by my dd's naps...?

[Odaat]

Sorry to hog this thread- I recently posed another question. After such a fab response (which I really found helpful) I thought I'd ask about something else ...
My daughter gets very cranky if she is tired (she used to scream herself to sleep when firstborn) and naps twice a day. If I hve to go into town i try and do it between her naps as she will just moan if tired and this makes me anxcious/ stressed as i dont like her being unhappy (pfb syndrome methinks!?) also she can cry sometimes if in the pram for a bit and then I feel really bad! I have a sling but i I am going far i prefer pram. If I am with someone i tend to carry her if she winges and dh pushes pram. But when I do this my fam and dh moan i am soiling her and should leave her to cry. She generally wont sleep in her pram. I do feel my life is a bit dictated by her naps- but she wont really nap in pram so what can I do! Am I being unreasonable by planning things around her nap as much as I can? And carryin her if she cries in pram? She always stops when I carry her ...

Yadnbu. There's nothing wrong with making life easier its hard enough having young children. I felt like my life was dictated by naps for ages. In reality its been just 2 years which isn't that long. And it gets easier. My dts went to one nap at aged 1 which meant more awake time. Then they pushed to a long pm nap which meant a nice long morning to do things. And a nice long afternoon break for me! Now they are dropping naps altogether which means just a few short pm naps a week and sometimes whole days without sleep (which is hard but means we can do whatever we want). They would also cry in pram when tired so I would take them out at a non nap time and they would be happier just looking around than trying to sleep. So, if you want to do what many many mums do for a relatively short time, dont apologise. And dont feel like a nap slave, enjoy the peace!