to ask them to bring her home??

[macdoodle]

DD1 12/13 is sleeping at a friends house tonight. She slept at another friends house last night. I warned her it would be too much but she was insistent. She also got her period yesterday. So I knew she's be tired and grumpy, but when do they ever listen.
She's has just text me saying she doesn't want to stay. My first inclination was to say "tough you insisted on going so you have to stay", but she sounds really miserable and says the dad and brother are teasing her about being fat (she really isnt but very sensitive about her weight especially when she's bloated with her period).
Problem is I am a single parent and my DD2 (age 6) is fast asleep in bed. I really dont want to wake her up to go get DD1.
WIBU to ask the mum (there is a dad there as well) to bring her home for me?? I could try and ask a neighbour to watch DD2 but its almost 10pm :(

It IS nasty to tease a 12 year old being fat.

Glad you got it sorted.

She's home, we've had tears and a cuddle. She is very very tired and hormonal.
The mum text me to apologise, her DD had told her why my DD1 wanted to go home. She says they are all just very jokey and no harm intended. I believe that, but we would never tease like that here.

Hope the dad is now feeling suitably ashamed of himself. Epic fail.

Glad she is home!

MAc Well I wouldn't let her go there again. "Very jokey" is not taking the piss out of young girls about their weight. Arses. I would be very annoyed.

Glad she's home, there is no way I could have let her stay if she was unhappy. Wait til morning and talk again when everything might seem a bit more rational. If need be I would be speaking with the parents about their inappropriate behaviour.

Glad she's home - and that the other girl's mum has apologised. It sounds like the dad was being a berk but not actually trying to be nasty. Hopefully he'll think twice before winding up young girls about their weight again!

I second BumpyGrindy and not let her go there again. The thread made me wonder what else they'd 'joke' about ....

You poor DD. Glad she is home and I can't see how an adult teasing a child about their appearance is ever acceptable!

I bet the other girl's mother is mortified. My uncle used to tease me like this (I was actually fat though) and I saw even then that them being told they're being an arse isn't enough to get them to stop...they generally need an absolute rollocking to make them think about what they're doing, and that's difficult to do if the child is still around. Hopefully the mum is suitably embarrassed that she does that now. It's not on really and can't just be put down to your daughter's hormones.

Glad you sorted it. What a tosser that man is

I hate that sort of 'ribbing' being excused as jokiness. It's NOT funny and it's not ok.

It's just them being jokey.
It's banter.
Take no notice, they're only kidding.

All said when it is twattish and offending to the person on the other end of the 'ribbing/joke/story'.

I hope your girl is okay.