I always got on great with my MIL until me and my DP moved in together. After a couple of weeks we invited his parents round. Everything was going well then I went to the bathroom and realised she had rearranged everything to where she obviously thought it looked best. I was shocked but bit my tongue and just moved everything back and no more was said. 1month later I discovered I was expecting DS. She was very happy and excited about this which was lovely. Unfortunately we were no longer to afford our house so had to move in with her until we could get a cheaper one. She started buying everything for the baby (not telling me until after she had already bought them). About 3 months before DS was due my DP told her that I was going baby shopping with my mum to which I was told I couldn't do that as she already had everything and I should just take her food shopping instead. I ignored here and snuck out of the house before she was up and bought all my own baby things with my mum. Again nothing else was said about it. DP and me then decided we would move to my parents house for baby coming as there would be more space. Unfortunately he chose to tell his mother this when she had a drink so was not too pleased about it. (My parents live 1 minutes walk from her house so not far away) the next weekend she was drinking again and told me that she wanted DS to love her more than he would love me!! We eventually loved out and I gave birth to DS by emergency c section with general anaesthetic so was unconscious for birth which really upset me as I didn't get to see DS when he was 1st born. MIL would come to my parents house to visit and would bring down a bag of clothes she had bought for DS. All of which were from charity shops (I am not a snob and have no problem with 2nd but so feel there needs to be a line drawn e.g 2nd bottles
And bedding! Which she had bought also) she said she had washed all of the clothes so the next day I went to put on a pair of baby jeans which looked new only to find that practically the whole of the inside was covered in dried up diarreohah (not sure of correct spelling). Needles to say these went straight in the bin and I have not looked in they bag again. Next things was when DS was 3weels old she TOLD me that the following week she was taking him to her work to show him off. I told her no she wasn't as we had only just got out of hospital the week before and he wasn't going anywhere without me. She looked quite upset by this and did not speak to me again that night. When she left DP said I was being selfish but I stood my ground and a few weeks later agreed she could take but was to bring him straight back. DS is now 8 weeks old and we have just got a new house. I have dreamed of having my own house for years and had planned exactly how I wanted each room to look. MIL however has decided that she would be in charge of the bathroom and has bought everything you could have in a bathroom all in shocking pink. (Not saying there is anything wrong with this colour but not to my taste and not what I had planned. Now she has got everything for the bathroom (most of which is not needed and just dirt collectors that I will have to clean) she has started on the rest of the house. Our living room is pretty small so we have only just managed to fit in our 2 couches, dining table, crib and tv without it looking too cluttered however she has told me that every month she gets paid she is going to buy us something else for the house which is very nice of her but we have everything we need and there is no more room. I can't stand clutter. Apart from that she will everything that is her taste and not ask our opinion. I did try to tell her that we had everything we need but she wouldn't take no for an answer. Yesterday I was having a cleaning day and trying to make dinner and lunch for DP to take to work the next day. I had to take DS to a hospital appoinent in the morning so was rushing to get this all done before DP came home. She text me asking if she could come for a visit (i had also seem her the past 2 days before this so not really any need for her to be here again) I didn't text bAck right away as was cooking dinner and sorting washing and within 10 mins she was behind me. I said I was busy but she just said oh ill just have a coffee (which I had to make for her) them stayed for an hour! When DP came home I asked him to tell her not to buy is anything
Else for he house as we don't need anything and it will just be more to clean. He then said it looked as if he was going to have to do this when he comes home from work as I hadn't bothered. After hearing that I lost it and said if his mother would Piss off then maybe I would get the cleaning done. He said I was
Being a stuck up bitch and we didn't talk again and he slept on the couch. I have asked him a few times in the past to tell her to back off a bit but he always just says I am an ungrateful bitch. I do appreciate the things she is doing but wish she would just ask 1st and take no for an answer. I feelin like I have no control over what's going on in my own house and whenever I try and speak up I am the bad one.
AIBU??
Sorry for the big book