neighbour across the road

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my neighbour across the road has SN , I am not entirely sure of what but he has a live in male carer.
they are fairly new only lived on the street for 6 months or so .
in the past 2-3 month my neighbour has been stood at his front window unclothed masturbsting . we live on a very busy main road. Now I don't sit watching his window but I have seen when I'm putting the bins out, going/coming home from work etc
I'm not the only one that has seen this , my NDNs on both sides have noticed aswell and they are concerned as they have young children who are playing out in the garden more now as the weather is getting nicer , and all 3 of us have mentioned it to our neighbours carer on more than one occasion but it's still happening !
what do we do ?!

Blah blah, someone masturbating in front of the window is very different to some

..someone walking around naked. Sure you get this. Also the point is that this man has special needs so may be in a position where he is vulnerable.

It's worth reporting also to make sure man is getting proper support/care

carer may not even know he is doing this

How about suggesting to the carer that they get some blinds fitted?

Um there is (excuse the pun) a stark difference between nakedness in one's own home and indecent exposure. Never mind him tossing off in the window. Am I offended by seeing people naked through their window? Not at all although it's only happened once or twice in my whole life and I don't make a habit of peering into other folks' homes. But this is inappropriate sexual behaviour and yes OP I'd report it to the police. His carer may well be aware and isn't doing enough to stop it.

I would report it on the basis that this man himself is extremely vulnerable. His carer is failing in his duties too. Please report before someone decides to take matters into their own hands.

Where is the carer while this is happening? I'd be reporting to the agency and the police at the same time. Shocking and I wonder what the carer is doing?

Perhaps the carer is the wanking man?

I'd be calling the police on the wanker and the pregnant woman parading around her living room.
Really, Carruthers?
You'd call the police because a pregnant woman was walking round with her breasts uncovered inside her own house?

Yes I would Sallyingforth.

You sound shocked.

If my neighbour kept exposing her breasts with her windows wide open in an exhibitionist way of course it's right to complain.

Where do you live?

Titterington?

Are you serious OP?

Someone is wanking at his window for all to see and you and your neighbours haven't phoned the police?

Not even once?

I agree. Don't keep wringing your hands over all the possible scenarios, just ring the police.

Don't talk to the carer (again - it obviously hasn't solved the problem), ring his agency (should you even know which one it is) or anything else that gets you personally involved.

you wouldn't want to be noted down as contact person!

You have to call the police. It's indecent exposure!!
there's no way this is ok.

Yes Caruthers I am shocked! How prudish can you get?

The pregnant woman wasn't "exposing her breasts with her windows wide open in an exhibitionist way". She had taken her top off to feel more comfortable. But even if she had stood by the window, what on earth is wrong with that?
The human body is NOT disgusting, or obscene. Any dirt is only in the mind of the viewer. There is no shame in allowing it to be seen. It's common now for women to be topless on beaches, and I do so in my garden as well. I frequently strip off altogether on a quiet beach, and swim that way. Would you call the police to me?

This thread was about a man masturbating in public and of course that's unacceptable. But being topless inside your own house? Get a life!

I am not sure exactly how you expect the carer to stop the man. Physical restraint is not allowed by carers. Also, it is very rare to have 1 to 1 care 24/7, unless you are living in either a nursing home or a residential unit of some sort. Are you absolutely sure the carer is there all the time?

Just for clarification, I am not saying that tossing off in full public view is correct or acceptable, just that I don't really see what a carer can do above asking the man not to!

The carer doesn't need to stop him. Merely insuring the curtains remain closed would do.

But if the man were to reopen them himself? What then? Speaking as a carer until very recently, it is considered a breach of the client's wishes to force him to do anything (including closing curtains) in his own home. Social Services could make him, a carer cannot.

of course you should report.

not everybody was ok with the naked pregnant lady - i said it was indecent exposure.

All 3 of you ( you and your NDNs ) have reported more than once . So in total 6-7 + times, and still no improvement.

Yes, it does need to be reported, higher up.
There must be a reason for him doing this, naked , right by the window.

Many males masturbate. Boys right up to elderly men in Nursing Homes (I have heard tales of socks being put on elderly residents hands to prevent them).
But he must have got a reaction from someone which has inspired him to keep doing this in public . Possibly where he lived before?

I would guess that the man enjoys the exhibitionism.

It needs to be escalated to the police/social services as the carers who have responded have explained that there isn't anything a carer could physically do to stop him, reporting to the carer hasn't worked, and I doubt he has 24/7 care anyway. He might expose himself to a child next, or get beaten up, so it's for everyone's good that this is stopped asap.

It's definitely not in the NDN's interest for this behaviour to go unchallenged and it sounds like he's not receiving the appropriate amount of support OP. I also think the police are the right port of call.