I feel offended. I might just be being silly though

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Just had a routine appointment with the GP practice nurse. Apparently I've been a 'naughty girl' as I've put on a couple of pounds in weight.

I'm offended. Patronised. Am I being silly?

No you aren't, it's not an appropriate way to speak to an sentient adult. But did you say anything?

any sentient adult.

Nope, I'd agree that is a very patronising way to speak to you.

Not offended as if you have put a bit of weight on then she was correct but I would feel irritated at the juvenile wording. It's not the correct terminology to use.

YANBU. Let it go for now, but if it happens again, a raised eyebrow and mildly incredulous "Sorry?" ought to make the point.

It is very annoying being spoken to like that. My consultant calls me a girl or a bright young lady a lot, which I really hate, but it is hard to combat when you are digesting the fact that you need major surgery or your condition isn't getting better.

I didn't say anything. My resentment for this woman is building though as she is absolutely useless. I have go see her every month. She forgets she's said she'll do things. She promises to arrange things and then denies saying it. She told me she didn't think I ought to be on the medicine the doctor prescribed as she thinks it's too expensive. I could go on, but won't.

Offended? Really? It's just a slightly silly turn of phrase. You need to turn your offencedar down a notch I think

Is putting on a couple of pounds 'naughty' or just life?

She sounds like a cow!

You're at my surgery, aren't you? My nurse forgets baby vaccinations

What business is it of hers wrt to the medicine???? tsk

Exactly, sole

Ooh OP I have sympathy for you re the expensive medicine - DP has been told by his consultant he must be on the branded (rather than cheaper generic) version of his meds and his GP made him feel awful about how much it cost the surgery! I wanted to go down and ask the GP which was more important, his budget or my DPs health...

Oh and on the weight comment - YANBU. Being patronised is the last thing that helps in that scenario.

YANBU at all. Mine said something similar to me once, I'd just gone over 10 stone. Might have had some effect, but she probably weighed around 16 or 17 stone.

So I just smiled at her, evilly.

Nurses are people too and people often say stupid things as this nurse has maybe done. I doubt she meant to upset you, maybe just tell her if she says anything like that again, how will people know they have offended if we don't tell them :)

Possibly just her trying to make light of the situation

My nurse gave me a disapproving look and told me at least three times how if put on 3kg. I felt scolded. I think this is the new 'thing' they're pushing

Patronising definitely, but to be honest I find that quite a lot of nurses are like this? Not all by any means but it seems a common characteristic...although in this case I'd just ignore. Not the weight issue (if there is one that is) itself, but her choice of words. Just...life's too short, seriously. Nurturing offence felt over little things is exhausting. So YANBU to feel offended but to make a thing of it might be, a little.

I would be offended. Do you have to be weighed by her every month? Can you refuse or is it to do with the dosage of medication?

Next time she forgets something, tsk and say 'Well it's a good job I'm here to remind you then, isn't it, you silly girl?'

Can you refuse

yes anyone can refuse and no one can or should be forced, whether it be getting on the scales or having blood pressure taken you do not have to allow a doctor or nurse to do it.

if they were to then continue they could get into a lot of trouble

Is it sensible - that it may not be depending but none can force you even if it isn't sensible

Bruno

YANBU
My DH hates his practice nurse and will do anything to avoid her, she tried to get his prescription changed as she thought having 2 inhalers on it was too expensive and he should only have 1 item per prescription
WTAF has it got to do with her?!
Anyhow, his GP has now put 4 inhalers on his prescription, she will pass out when she realises
She also told him he should stop smoking, he has never smoked in his life!! And when he pointed this out, shouted at her she just tutted and said oh you must have smoked in your youth WTF??

She made me a half hour appointment for an ECG last year, she faffed about doing the usual blood pressure/ other stuff for a while before I realised she'd forgotten why I was there. I said 'what about the ECG?' and she was clearly flustered and embarrassed about forgetting. So she tried to pretend that there never was an ECG arranged.

Sounds like a cow? Honestly? I can't believe that anyone would remember such a throwaway comment more than 5 seconds after it's been said.

Next time list all her misdemeanors and tell her she's been a very VERY naughty girl who deserves a smacked botty

i usually respond with thank goodness ive been trying to for ages or blow it off with well my clothes aren't tight must be my hairs longer