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to think I do not deserve this...

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 21:53

Death tthreats at work that is. li am a teacher. Ok..I do find a crowd of teens hard to control. Does this mesn I deserve abuse? I am great st my subject. High hraded. Shit at politics. So long teaching..im bored of being told im shit

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:32

Yes. Its shit. Noone is interested anyway. Not when thsy have you tube and face book.

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:34

And nowadays if you give detentions then ijt is because you are shite.

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hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 22:36

Are you allowed to speak to their parents? If I was spending all that money on a private education for my little chick I'd want to make sure he/she was working hard because I'd expect a return in the form of a decent degree from a decent university.

Forgettable · 07/03/2014 22:36

Oh man that sucks big ones

Fuck em all

What will you do for employment now?

hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 22:38

I'd phone their parents. They'll get stick of them for sure.

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:41

You know what...I dont even care about emplyment for noe. Im a realky intelligent hunan being with great grades and lotts of talents.. or if all else fails then I get benefits.

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:42

Spelling when drunk isnt a talent of mine.

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hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 22:42

Couldn't you do some extra studying and alter your career path? Will you get unemployment benefit if you give your job up? Don't make any rash decisions, think things through.

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:44

You see in a lot of privaye school parents eyes, their precious child couldnt possibly do wrong. WHATEVER!

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:45

Ibe

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IHeartKingThistle · 07/03/2014 22:47

They're making you do silent exam questions then telling you you're not entertaining enough? I'd be fucking off out of there too (and I did fuck off, 2 years ago. I teach lovely adults now).

A colleague of mine was told by a feral teenager that he hoped her unborn baby died. Nothing happened. We heard a group of 12 year old girls in English class discussing how they were going to allege that their Tech teacher had hit one of them to get her sacked. Very little happened. One of my students drew a massive swastika with an arrow pointing to me and held it up at the front of the class. When I referred him to the pastoral team I was told I'd overreacted and it should have been a quiet word at the end of the lesson. I could carry on but I don't have to deal with that shit any more.

I was a good teacher. I could control classes. I cared about my students. I couldn't control the chair-throwers and I'm glad I don't have to try any more.

hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 22:47

No discipline in the home. Parents are scared of upsetting their little chicks in case those chicks turn against 'em. It's bollocks. Parenting is a social responsibility, not a sentimental pastime.

Tiredtomybones · 07/03/2014 22:47

I gave up teaching last year. It had become an absolute nightmare. I found out I was pregnant just after I handed my notice in so haven't even tried to find another job. Teaching is not the job it was when I started in 2000. Good luck with finding something else. No one deserves to be threatened at work, or any other time.

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 22:48

Sorry. Have already given in my notice. Hate it sonmuch.

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IHeartKingThistle · 07/03/2014 22:48

Oh and OP, in case you're an English teacher: be bloody, bold and resolute. You're better than this.

hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 22:49

Well, it's best you're out of that school then. Onwards and upwards.

What are you going to do?

YellowTulips · 07/03/2014 22:55

Leave and do something else.

You sound as if you are highly qualified. Use those skills and training in another profession.

It's not working out for you. Life's too short to spend on a career that isn't working out.

Teaching isn't just about qualifications. It's about being able to engage the toughest, most unsympathetic audience in the worst on topics dictated by someone else. It's a tough gig and I am in awe of people who can do this.

The teachers on Educating Yorkshire made me cry. The effort, dedication, skill and compassion to their pupils was inspirational. It's a true vocation.

It sounds like you no longer feel that. So do something else and put your skills to use doing something you love. Thanks

hiddenhome · 07/03/2014 23:03

Kids in this country should value education, not demand to be 'entertained' Sad They should also have respect for others.

Maryz · 07/03/2014 23:04

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superstarheartbreaker · 07/03/2014 23:05

Its a shame as I love my subject A* gcse, 2.1 degree. Love teens etc, etc. What am I doing wronv then? Hate being blamed for bad behaviour when management tie my hands.

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indigo18 · 07/03/2014 23:08

You have my sympathy; know how it works. Put in detention - makes you look weak for not 'engaging' them in lesson. F**k that. some have no intention of being engaged. Ever. Write them a bad report? Other staff give a good or average report for a quiet life. Makes you look bad again for not getting the best out of them. Meanwhile they snigger, made snide remarks, interrupt, challenge and challenge again. Like to see Gove doing it...

Maryz · 07/03/2014 23:09

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ChampagneTastes · 07/03/2014 23:11

Sounds like a horribly unsupportive environment. Have you considered a state school? What subject do you teach? Are you relatively new to the profession? May be able to offer advice if you want it. Feel free to PM me.

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superstarheartbreaker · 08/03/2014 03:40

I have bullied now in all 4 schools I have worked at so not going back.

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Thumbwitch · 08/03/2014 03:50

Hiddenhome - some parents actually encourage their children in their shitty behaviour, telling them that they are more important than some teacher (who, in their eyes, wouldn't be in teaching if they were actually any good at anything).

It can be a soul-destroying situation to deal with and I, for one, wouldn't undertake it for 3x the money they pay. More! I taught at University level, vocational students who wanted to be there, and that was great - any sort of attempting to teach students who don't want to be there, or who feel they are somehow superior, is something I wouldn't and couldn't do.

Superstar - they have lost a valuable teacher, by the sound of it - and if you are high enough up in your field, move to tertiary education if you can. Even 6th form college is better than secondary school.
I do hope you reported the death threats to the police though - you really should have, and still should in fact - might bring it home to the little darlings that they can't just say what they like to whomever, however much money Daddy and Mummy have.