When do people usually send out wedding invites ?

[pussycatdoll]

So if a wedding was in July when would you expect to receive an invite ?

We had a 'save the date' fridge magnet off one couple.

If you get a STD card and you can't make it what's the etiquette then?

Well, it turns out the in-laws have had their invite - we're obviously C List (which is fine, actually), and, as it's bang in the middle of the only two weeks I can take off work this summer, we're not going. takes the guilt off! Going to Portugal instead!

We sent ours out about 4 months beforehand and requested RSVP's be in a month later. This was because the Venue needed to know the numbers by that date - if it wasn't for that I'd probably have sent them out a little later.

Ooh Wedding or Portugal Arse? No contest.

Ooh sparklingbrook were you at my wedding? We sent out save the date fridge magnets, we figured people wouldn't lose them if they were stuck on the fridge! Ours were sent out about 18 months before the wedding- basically as soon as the venue was booked- and only to people we were inviting to the whole day. The reason we sent them out so early was because we were inviting family from abroad and the other end of the country to us, so knew they'd have extensive travel arrangements to make. We sent out the full invitations about 3 months beforehand- in April with a end of May RSVP for a July wedding.

it's ok Chronically this was a September wedding. Did your fridge magnet have a pic of you and your future DH grinning like loons?

We sent ours put nearly a year in advance as we invited lots of people from abroad. We are getting married a a touristy place so accommodation gets booked up a year in advance.

No sparklingbrook it was just a handwritten "save the date, we are getting married on (date)" with a magnet glued on the back.

We once got sent a 'save the date' card by friends A&B (not close ones, I hasten to add, but it would have been lovely to meet up with them again at their wedding). Duly saved the date and no invitation materialised. With six weeks to go before the big day and just after their RSVP date - we have a mutual friend, C, so I knew this from her - I contacted A and said, I do hope you don't think we have forgotten or are being rude in not getting back to you, but we didn't actually receive the invitation. The reply was 'well it's too late now, we've confirmed numbers with the venue'. The invitation could well have got lost in the post, but the tone of the reply said to me that we had slipped off the list of invitees!

I remember reading something about wedding etiquette that stated you should send out invitations three months before the wedding day.

So rude to send 'save the dates' to people you aren't actually going to invite! It wasn't the same wedding as the legendary gluezilla thread was it?

We didn't send any invitations! Only parents and siblings came.

We sent ours out nearly a year in advance
Augustwedding you did not. We recieved your invitation more than a year in advance!

Must RSVP

i would say 6 months - as there will be plenty of people needing to book flights etc.

I think it depends on where the guests love in relation to where the wedding is. If a lot of the guests live quite far away then IMO its better to give more notice than when everyone is local. If travel is needed its better to have more time to look into hotels and save up if money is an issue. If we were invited to a wedding where we needed to stay over with only 6 weeks notice it would be very unlikely that we'd be able to go as we have very little spare money.

A fair chunk of my family live overseas or quite far away (4-5 hour drive) so we sent ours out in January for our June wedding. We didn't do save the date cards though.

If we'd sent save the date cards I'd have sent those in January for all day guests and then invites for all guests in March/April.

Family had 6m notice as ILs had to book flights. Friends about 4m as we needed a good idea of which aunts and cousins were prepared to travel to know how much capacity was left on the guest list. It was a peak season. Wedding so it benefited people to have good notice.

My brother was late with his arrangements which was a pain as he clashed with good friends who were more organised, and we had to revise our plans.