To think my dd is a sell out!

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Dd is nearly ten months old.

She is obsessed with her dad - calls him 'Gad'. She is yet to utter anything that resembles 'mama, mum'. He plays with her for one hour in the morning then sods off to work returning when she is in bed.

I have to do night wakes because if she realises it's him, she shrieks and starts laughing.

I really enjoy my baby, do baby groups, we read, go park , I crawl round living room chasing her - loads of fun stuff. But when dp is here I don't get a look in

Sat and Sunday are spent crawlng up his legs, on his shoulders, waiting outside toilet or trying to get in bath with him. We have just been out in the car and she spent the entire time gazing at him while he was driving. I really felt a pang of jealousy

Why does she like hm more than me?! I'm well better!

at least I get snotty open mouthed kisses

Dd shouts and sings 'Dada' all day, but as soon as she needs anything or is upset she starts wailing 'mum mum' and only settles with me which I shouldn't smile at but secretly it makes me feel good knowing she needs me more than fun Dada.

It hasn't changed here, nearly 5 year old ds loves me less than the dad he only sees at weekends & the hamster ffs!

Bloody hell Always , she's harsh!

DS learnt 'Dada' long before 'Mama', purely because I was boringly omnipresent and so never needed to be spoken about, whereas DH coming home each day was an exciting event, and I'd talk about him to DS.
I eventually got DH to start talking about me even when I was right there, DS soon realised I had a name! :)

DS is nearly 3 and has just learnt the phrase "I don't like......" so tonight DH got the brunt. "I don't like Daddy" was at least novel after a day of "I don't like porridge/tuna/eggs/pasta/any other foodstuff I normally love but will refuse purely because I've learnt a new phrase".

Honestly, Nerfmother, the first time she said it I was in hysterics. I think I was asking forcing her to put socks on and she started off with 'go over there' and when I carried on 'go your room' I have no idea where she got it from I don't say it. Apparently childminder doesn't.

She also puts her hands on her hips and strolls into the too
Saying 'what's going on!' And then waves her finger at us!

I'm ok with DP being her favourite because I was for the last 2.5 years

Dd is nearly 4 and still a total daddies girl. I've looked after her all day, every day for 4 years and still daddy is number 1.

Ds is more of a mummies boy though so I guess it evens out.

Baby Ds is like this. DH probably only interacts with him for about 20 mins a day! However my other two would not entertain the thought of Daddy until they were about five, so it makes a refreshing change for me, and dh loves it!

My 15 month old loves In The Night Garden more than both of us. He is more animated when the opening credits of that show come on than he ever is when he sees me or his daddy!!

Ha ha, DD 2.5 was having a nightmare at 3am and all i could hear through the monitor was "no daddy go away". I had to go in in the end (even though i am wrecked from being up with baby".

She sounds fab Eveesmummy

Dd is like this, she's 11mo and spends the day saying various forms of dada. I taught her to say 'oops' in less than a week, but 'mama' which I've been saying numerous times a day for months has maybe passed her lips twice. And even then I'm jot entirely sure it was mama she said!

This has made me laugh this morning. My 2 DD are pretty much grown up but I've been through all of these and it lasts a lifetime! I can spend an hour tonging hair, scrabbling under the dressing table to find the matching earrings, lending my best lippy etc before they go out. I stand back and say .. 'you look gorgeous darling' ... It's all pouts and whining ... no the hairs not quite right, the earrings are too boring and the lippy is too granny but when daddy walks past the door at that exact moment, looks in and says casually... 'You look nice love' .. it's all smiles and giggles and bouncing round the room and out the door like a supermodel on her way to a vogue shoot.

Don't get me started on all the days in town or on outings where both girls were little and insisted on holding daddy's hand ... so I spent years watching the three of them make their way round attractions and parks from behind as I brought up the rear with the bags and coats and bikes and dolly prams discarded in the scrabble to hold daddy's hand.

If it makes you feel any better, my ds said gruff also before he said Mummy. That was pretty cutting

Stupid autocorrect, should have been gruffalo!

do you not think that the little ones call out to the secondary carer as a safety net?

they know you will always be there becuase you always have been, but they feel the need to maintain a relationship with the secondary carer?

Don't get me started on all the days in town or on outings where both girls were little and insisted on holding daddy's hand ... so I spent years watching the three of them make their way round attractions and parks from behind as I brought up the rear with the bags and coats and bikes and dolly prams discarded in the scrabble to hold daddy's hand

kepek sounds about right

You've done such a good job with your dd that she is completely and utterly content and takes your love and care completely for granted.thats the way it should be. It also sounds like her dad is brilliant (when he's not at work) another thing you should be very pleased about.

• By the way, Dad/dada/daddy is easier to say than mummy so that's why most kids say it first.

there are up sides to this - my 3 DC only ever shout for their father in the mornings - lie in for me!

DTs now request their father does their dirty nappies.

DS1 always wants his father to wipe his bottom.

they all only want their father to clean them up after eating.

I get a lot of lovely uninterrupted cups of tea when he's home!

if my parents are around they outrank me too. it used to upset me until I was rushed to hospital and wasn't there for a week - my kids were perfectly happy and relaxed staying with my parents and didn't even know there was a problem (I was critically ill for a while). ever since I can be nothing but grateful that my kids have such strong relationships with 3 very important adults in their lives.

Borrowed DPs car today as mine is being fixed and when I dropped him off at work she screamed. When I dropped her off at CM she strolled through the door and didn't even look back...

This thread makes me glad iv got boys. Mine are stuck to me like glue. Daddy is exciting but it's always mummy in a crisis.

Don't all babies day dada first even if daddies not around?

DTD1 managed 'pate' and 'bamboo' before 'Mummy'!

From age 1-2 DS was all about the Daddy.

I was a sahp and DH works from home (at the time in a tiny flat with only on room to work in!) So I don't understand the separation, or secondary carer angle, we were both there 24/7 and co-slept.

Once, when DH was up to his neck.in important, urgent work, DS had d&v and would only be settled and happy wirh DH. It made me feel absolutely bloody useless and guilty for not being able to take care of him.

He's much more equal now, although I wouldn't be surprised if it happens again and I can steel myself for it write down all the mean things he says, put them in a book, present them when he becomes a dad himself

My little girl said mama first, but as soon as she figured out dada that was it, I was out the window unless she needed something!

My son is a mummy's boy though and always has, it's lovely.