I'm in tears this evening. I'm so fed up of looking pregnant when I'm not and my youngest child is almost two...
I'm not fat but have separated abdominal muscles - a gap of about 2.5 fingers still. I'm wearing size 10/12 and am back in most of my
pre-baby clothes but lots I just can't wear not cos they don't fit but because they don't disguise my disgusting stomach enough. In many ways I wish I was 'just' fat - I could just lose weight then - simples.
I don't have a hernia so I'm not sure the GP will do anything if I go to see them.
I take regular exercise - walks most days with youngest DC in buggy, try to gym or run a couple of times a week and do intervals to make it more effective. I also do exercises for separated abs - things I've found online by mutu and Juliet tupler.
I had a few sessions with a postnatal personal trainer recently and in addition to exercise they wanted me to cut out all carbs like bread, rice, pasta, even legumes like chickpeas etc. This felt OTT and not sustainable. She said slow release foods are bad and I should be eating / snacking every couple of hours - not easy when you're a busy mum! Breakfast needs to last me til lunch most days hence porridge Or similar, not just a couple of eggs.
I also want to do more running as I've done pre children and need carbs for that surely?
Finally my DP is v fit and has always been a very good athlete. I know - because he's said as much - that he thinks I just need to lose weight. He won't answer when I ask if he likes how my tummy looks - his silence speaks volumes. He seems to think it's my problem to solve and doesn't believe the separated abs are real it seems. I feel so despondent as I've read that toning exercises are pointless and only surgery will fix it for sure - you can't tone connective tissue so just as you can't tone your boobs you can't tone separated abs, or you can, but the separation won't change and so you'll look the same.
I've lost all confidence in how I look and am dreading our beach holiday this summer.