life is shit sometimes

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My two year old just said "I miss my gama " my poor mum passed away almost eleven months ago.

So unfair and shit my poor baby couldn't even talk when we lost mum but she still feels the loss now.

Life is so hard sometimes and feels very unfair

Bless her. Sorry for your loss. It is amazing how much children remember even from being pre-verbal.

Agreed.

My DD is 2.9 & her grandma (my mil) died suddenly in January. She asks for her all the time. She doesn't understand the finality of it & she doesn't have another grandma.

Worst thing is that she will actually forget her :(

Aww hun that must be so hard!!

No wise words I am afraid but have a hug and a hand to. Hold

Aww, bless her. That is sad. My Mum always made a point of telling me when I was little how much her uncle, who she was very close to but who died before I was born, would have loved me if he had lived. It made me sad but also happy that she had someone who loved her that much. That's a bit much for your daughter now of course as she's so little but something to explore with her when she's older maybe.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. I hope you have some lovely photos for your DC to look back at in the future.

That must have really knocked you in the teeth. So sorry to hear that.

It's over 3 years since Dad died and my DC (4&6) still say this. I think as little kids they take a long time to explore grief because as they get older they understand more. TBH I know they don't remember Dad but my sister (who was a baby when our Grandmother died) says she knows she was loved by her even though she has no memory of her. It's a hard thing to manage. My kids have said to Mum regularly 'You miss Grandad don't you' which is hard to deal with, how do you explain that yes, she does miss Grandad but you don't talk about grief but it's OK to talk about the person. We talk about Dad regularly and make sure they hear lots of stories about him and when they do things like him I always tell them it reminds me of Grandad. But sometimes I think that all they know about him is that he's dead and that's horrible to think as well, he was a wonderful father and would have been their best, most fun grandparent.

Yes,unfortunately life is unfair,and it can be disproportionately hard

I lost my dad ten years ago so at least mum got to meet them. My ds is 4 and always talks about granny but today it felt especially hard as my dd was so tiny when we lost mum . Thanks for replies