To feel sad that I've never had a best friend?

[Onelittlebugbear]

I've had lots of friends over the years but none I can say I've ever really felt a connection with. The friend I've always called my best friend because I've known her over 20 years isn't really. It was bought home to me when I told her that my first cycle of ivf had failed and she didn't bother to call or answer my texts.

I wonder what's wrong with me that I've never been able to make this relationship. Sometimes I think it's because generally I'm quite self sufficient and mostly don't seek out the company of others. I'm happiest at home on my own. Sad really. I wonder if it's because I'm an only child or if it's some weird thing that I'm lacking in.

Usually it doesn't bother me but sometimes it makes me feel a bit lonely that basically I'm on my own.

Another only!

At primary school I never had a best friend, just lots of friends. Same at secondary school. Never really thought anything of it. Had some very close friends but certainly not one closer than any other.

Found myself a best friend seven years ago. Just someone with whom I clicked incredibly - if someone told us we were twins and had been separated at birth it wouldn't surprise us.

If you happen to find a best friend at whatever stage in life, it can be quite fabulous. But I don't think you can honestly miss something you've never had - as long as you have friends PLURAL.

Not an only, but with a much older sister as my only sibling.

Apart from that could have written NotNewButNameChanged post!

Met a girl about 7 years ago and we just totally clicked. Love spending time with each other, will always gravitate towards each other at parties and nights out. Miss each other if we don't see each other for a week. Can talk about everything. Can disagree with each other's views and actions and still be super close.

I'm really lucky and happy to have this.

Same here, I was also an only child and don't have a best friend. In fact I don't have many close friends either, maybe two? DH is definitely my best friend even though he drives me crackers sometimes. . . . . .I find it quite hard to make new friends as I'm really shy and have been told I come across as standoffish/aloof when I don't know someone . Having said that I'm perfectly happy at home on my own, I love my own company! It's for DS's sake that I worry I should be more sociable.